Any Mother’s Day haters out there besides me? Since my mom died I’ve really grown to hate the day. Or maybe it’s the commercial wind up to the day, all the ads reminding us to call mom, send mom flowers, buy mom a gift, take mom out for lunch, each one feels like a little punch to the gut. On most any ordinary day I miss my mom, but I’m not a tearful mess over her loss anymore. I’ve had plenty of time to deal with her passing. But somehow each May it’s like “here we go again” and I feel the tears welling up often. I’ve tried a few years to go to church on Mother’s Day and after leaving mid service each time in tears, feeling like I was making a scene, I now know better than to attempt it. Nothing like a minister saying “who here has a mother?” with everyone smiling to make me run. I don’t have my mom to buy anything for, can’t call her or take her to lunch, and the relentless ads just make me miserable over something I’m generally okay about. Truthfully, I don’t think I was a huge Mother’s Day fan even before losing my mom, I guess it always felt like a bit of a forced holiday to me, one of those things we’re told to do. My now adult children know I’m not big into it, they usually buy me small gifts and we go do something to distract away from dwelling on the day. Am I alone in this or any other haters want to unite in spirit with me?
My MIL is okay but a bit bizarre with her Dementia. I got her a card and we had a supper together a few nights ago. She may recall getting the card or not...I don't know.
Mother's Day is for me a day I can go do something I enjoy like gardening or hiking.
I don't have TV so can't see all of the ads ... thank goodness!
I think the only holiday I hate is Christmas - but not all of Christmas. We cut out the part we didn't like, the gift giving. I like the rest of the holiday.
I really loathed it after I lost 2 pregnancies and was unable to actually be a mother myself. All you see are these smiling vapid faces around you as you sit there in pain and mourning. No thanks.
I love my kids, they love me. I DON'T need a day to guilt them into doing something nice.
I know this comes from my mother and her incredible anger all day long every Mother's Day. We always fell short in her eyes.
Yeah, I need to get over this.
It seems so false to get her a card. She loves to put them on her table, though. Funny thing is the brother who hasn't seen her now in 16 months (once went FIVE years!!!) doesn't even send her cards for Mother's Day or her birthday. My mother says, "He's too busy!" How nice...wonder if *I* could get away with that? Maybe I'll try it this year. Just give her a quick call on Mother's Day, just like he does.
My kids don't do much on Mother's Day, but I do get cards and small gifts.
I've always tried to make Mother's Day about the folks in my family who are actively mothering, i.e., the ones who have little kids. Taking the babies off their hands for the day so they can get some rest, have adult time with spouse, etc.
When I feel rotten, I've always found that the solution is to find someone to help. You might consider finding a young, overwhelmed mom to assist on Mother's Day. Alternately, visit a local care facility and find an elderly mom who has no visitors.