Today has been a rough day. My precious friend that has been in a board and care home for about 6 months died. He was 93 and fought the good fight, he has been reunited with his loved ones that have gone before. He will be sorely missed here.
The prayers are for my mom. She is in the hospital, she had a bowel obstruction that perforated, while they were doing surgery they found a mass that is colorectal cancer that has metastasized to her liver. She is in serious but stable condition and they are running tests and doing pathology before we will really know what the prognosis is.
I appreciate and covet any and all prayers for her. Whatever is meant to happen I pray she doesn't continue to suffer as she is now. Thankfully they have her on a pain pump and are keeping her fairly comfortable. They have left the surgery site open and it is very painful when she is awake, she cries out in pain. It is difficult to see any human being suffering so.
Thank you for the prayers.
I agree with so much of your advice to us. We learn as we go.
Telling someone they better learn about boundaries or they are going to be scr*wed when they have to deal with what they say are difficult parents is unacceptable on a caregiving support/advice forum?
Yesterday I decided to just be a puddle and cry all the tears I had. It was cathartic and I am doing okay today. I had a good nights sleep and feel less exhausted then I have for a month, Praise The Lord!
One thing I pray everyone learns, before they need it, it's okay to honor a parents wishes, even when they are hurtful and not the best plan. It is their end and they should get what they want, even though we don't agree with them. This, obviously, doesn't apply to being their sole caregiver or crossing your boundaries. We ALL get to decide for our own lives what we will or will not do. Them and us!
I have seen so much BS in the last 6 months with family trying to keep dear friends away, just because they do not have the capacity to deal with authority, I have seen greed grow to a sickness and sole focus and I have seen the very low bar set for competency by our medical industry and I have seen lies beyond my ability to comprehend and many other heart breaking situations. It doesn't need to be this way.
Have that talk with your parents and families, put your wishes in writing and give someone the legal ability to advocate for you when you can not advocate for yourself.
My mom told me what she wanted and I am grateful that I didn't have to be anything but her daughter, for what that was worth.
No amount of money is worth your own well-being, period. Help if you choose to but, not because you are looking for an inheritance or acknowledgment or anything, you will sell your soul if you do.
Figure out what your boundaries are, enforce them and keep yourself from getting trapped. It is okay to do those things. Face it, it's not the 1st time your parent(s) were mad at you and it won't be the last. However, you will be strong enough to face the anger if you don't let them suck your life force!
Love all of you and your hearts. May today be a new sunrise for all of us. ((((((((((HUGS))))))))) to everyone!
Were there trials and tears, of course, every relationship has them but, once I was an adult, my parents weren't in a position to reign anything in my life. Everything I did, I did willingly, knowing who they were.
- Matthew 5:4
ITRR, may you feel blessed and comforted today.
The last 6 weeks may not feel real yet, let both the good & not so good details wash over you as they need to. In time, may the good, fond & funny memories arrive & be the ones to look back on.
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I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. It’s a blessing that she died peacefully. I’m sure that she knew that you truly cared about her well being.
My condolences to you on the passing of your Mom this morning.
My condolences on the passing of your mom.
I pray for God's peace and comfort to cover you in the days, weeks, and months ahead.
I have confidence that The Lord moved in her heart and on the scene.
This year has felt like a lifetime. It is hard to grasp that it was 6 weeks from the 911 call to death.
I am grateful for that mercy. I am grateful for all the prayers and good thoughts. Mostly, I am grateful for Jesus, my Lord and Saviour.
Thank you all!
Thinking of you and your mom. I am glad that she isn’t suffering. It’s very nice that her dogs are being well cared for.
Wishing all of you peace during this difficult time. Continuing to pray for your family.
Sending you hugs and a prayer for peace during this time of waiting.