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I think for me I am a huge gay pride supporter, because I know what it's like pretending you something your not your whole life in fear of being teased.

I was an atypical learner, trying to fit in a typical learning world, and hiding and being ashamed of it. Now I'm out and proud. In a sence like they are. Id be very happy if that was going on here, but I'm seeing much the opposite
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Margaret, that's very interesting, my first thought is " alphabet people" I've never heard of that. Is that what they want to be called. I've actually never heard that. I kinda think is cute.

I will tell you what I have seen, and read about is a bit of heterosexual extra testosterone. Men acting like proud peacocks, strutting there stuff. I read it's going on even in are liberal colleges. I've even noticed it in my own neighborhood. Which puts me in fear of women's rights

But otherwise, I feel like the "alphabet" people, ( hehe) are actually quieter here. From what I see in my area, they are more quiet than before.

For me I'm a very much gay pride supporter, id probably be out there with them. My feeling is it's not just gay pride they fight for, they fight for womens rights also, and I fear for women's rights now.
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This is a new general topic, and I hope it’s not seen as ‘political’. Australian media have had a strong emphasis in past months on what are sometimes known collectively as ‘alphabet people’ (LGBTQIA+), their rights to choose their gender, their perceived oppression etc. Following the US election I read some really awful far right comments dumping on women’s rights (eg your body, my choice), which I am NOT blaming on any political party.

While I support rights for everyone, I would prefer to think first about correcting the common gender oppression for the last few thousand years, rather than for small minorities who are recently making a lot of 'look at me' noise. On the site we still see a lot of female posters (not only from migrant backgrounds) who are still picking a lot of the worst responsibilities in aged care, because it's 'clearly' a job for women - wives, daughters and daughters-in-law.

What I would be interested to hear from my friends on the Forum is whether you too in the US have had this strong emphasis on very vocal ‘alphabet people’. A lot of people here are blaming it on our own media, perhaps with their own 'alphabet' component. People on the site ought to know. Any clues?
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It’s nuts, isn’t it? Years ago I worked in a specialist clinic associated with the Adventist system. When I started there, individual people were actually ‘seen’. Then, about 8 years in, a big management company took over and the whole system took a dive. It was awful to watch; worse to be part of. 2 years later I left that system never to return.

When I was diagnosed with cancer I paid out of network costs to see an oncologist I knew was ‘old-school’ and actually treated his patients as whole people. He retired early because the system would not allow him to provide primary care along with cancer care for his patients. He was the last of a dying breed.

This should probably be under a Whine!
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Psue - sounds like close to a big fat zero for the appointment. You wonder how much something like that costs the system, never mind what it costs you in time, effort and money. I am sure the pacemaker co would contact you if something was off.

Enjoy the plateau. Though the waiting for the next shoe to drop is hard. Hopefully the neuropsych appointment will be useful/enlightening.

For me the quote especially applies to family members. 🙄
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Oh Golden, I really like that! Most of the time I don’t mind being misunderstood but once in awhile I get caught off guard, especially if it’s with a family member.

Cardiology appointment was pretty worthless. This is a new doctor - DH’s previous cardiologist left the system so we needed to start all over again. Apparently there hasn’t been any change in his level of heart failure because follow-up is in one year. DH was taken off one blood thinner which I appreciate. The tech required to check his pacemaker/defibrillator canceled at the last minute so I have no idea if things are stable there. It is monitored, so I assume the company would contact me if there was a problem. Thank you for asking!

Onward to neuro-psyche next month. Things have plateaued around here, which is nice, but as always I’m waiting for the next shoe to drop.
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Found this bit of wisdom this morning and it resonated with me. - posted by Laddie Mae f/b

"I don't have the energy to debate. I'm at at peace with being misunderstood."

Oh, boy, am I!!!!

Psue - how did the cardiology appointment go?
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Nacy, Its cardiology this time so I won’t know anything until tomorrow. Sweet of you to ask!
Neuro-psyche is next month.
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Peasuep, how are things with hubby, and his doctors appointment?
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Peasuep, exactly, I try in this divided world to not divide it father. Sometimes people see that as an opening to keep pushing

And to add, if the push to far , they push there way right out of our life. 🤗
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Same thing happened to DH and me. We were very close with a couple for several years. We went through some very difficult times together and our friends dealt with it all by becoming involved in an evangelical church. It helped them immensely and we were so happy for them. Unfortunately for us, it also taught them that with every encounter, they had not only an opportunity but a duty to try to bring us into the flock. We told them how we felt and asked to be allowed to just observe the positive changes their beliefs had made in their lives but their belief that they would not be good Christians if they did not push was foremost, and we drifted apart. It was sad but they didn’t see that they were being disrespectful even when we pointed it out.
I want to know what people believe because their beliefs make them who they are. But I can love who they are without believing the same things they do.
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I was really good friends with someone, very religious, then she started pushing and pushing her views on me. Sadly we went are separate ways
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Peasuep, Beautiful well said! You are such a great addition here
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In my previous neighborhood I was 1 of 5 women who, somehow, ended up very close over 25 years. We were like pearls on a string of political beliefs from extremely conservative to extremely liberal, also from traditionally religious, to atheist. Really, we were different in every possible way except gender and proximity. It is miraculous that we ended up together and how much we learned from each other. We enriched each other’s lives in so many ways.

I’m not saying there weren’t rough patches and I have no doubt the string would have broken if we hadn’t been able to see beyond (not ignore) our political or religious beliefs. But we learned to give ourselves and each other grace. None of us would be who we are if hadn't learned to embrace each other as whole people rather than put each other in ideological boxes.

A person who shows their beliefs to you is just showing you a part of themself. A person who tries to force their beliefs onto you is not showing respect for who you are. You have to be able to distinguish the difference. The first is a friend; the second is just a person that is easy to walk, or scroll, away from.
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If you’re truly interested in people, you’re interested in politics and religion. Neither of those things make a person more or less interesting if you look at the world with a macro view. Evangelism of any belief can be annoying if you don’t share it but it really isn’t threatening. My DH absolutely must have pineapple on his pizza and I absolutely will not eat raw tomato on mine but somehow we’re still together.
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No politics please, it's too triggering for many people.
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Hey to all my friends, I read, heart attacks, strokes, and hospitalizations are up 17 percent, post election day.

Please turn off all news, turn the music 🎶 🎵 up, Sing like no one is listening, Dance like no one is watching.

Bickbob, I have friends on my side annoyed with me because I'm not letting myself go into a depression, lost all the friends from the other side. So I guess for now I have no friends. 🤭Oh well!
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After a week away from FB, I found out that a FB friend removed me because of the Election Day post I made right after the first polls closed. Apparently, telling people to pray for the country regardless of who won and to stay off of social media was apparently triggering enough for her to unfriend me.

And when it comes to political activity on FB, 2024 as a whole has been the most quiet I've been on there since early in college and for the few political posts I've shared on my page, I fixed it to where she was among those who didn't see any of them to avoid trouble. And I never once went after her for her beliefs.

Btw, she was involved with campus ministry up until a few years ago.
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Glad: Thanks for letting us know the sad news of Jeanne's passing. Good to see you.
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I'm sorry to hear that😔
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Jeanne was a major contributor here. I knew she had a stroke a few years ago.
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Thanks, Glad. Happy to see you here. Barb let us know the sad news as well.
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Long time contributor to our group, Jeanne has passed last night.
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The Pogo scrabble game that I like to waste time with isn't loading on either of my browsers, that leaves me with just the Microsoft Solitaire suite.

Pop ups and ads are for people who don't know how to block those things (although admittedly doing so on a phone is much more complicated than on a PC)
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Another thing I've been doing is looking on all my channels for something different in the morning.

So I started watching the Smithsonian channel Arial America, its educational, no drama. Arial Vermont was just on next is Arial Maine.
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I have noticed if you normally watch news , then you get pop ups on your phone and such. I haven't disabled that as of yet.

Also even Instagram, you have to be careful what you like, or you will just get more and more, of that kind of stuff.

Also id suggest, if you really feel the need to know what's going on, I would stick to reading it, and stick to the headlines. You can scroll through the stuff you don't want to read about, and honestly it seems a lot less dramatic, than listening to the news
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I do facebook and avoid news as well. My facebook is images like scenery that I post, some art, funny quotes, photography I like and a little I/we do, animals...You can set it up as you want it to be. Re news, I figure if it is that earth shaking I'll hear about it anyway from R. He follows it but he is an optimistic person so it doesn't get him down much. He has other things to think about like pastures for the colts.

My "third place" would be anywhere in the condo buildings outside of our unit - in the elevator, getting the mail, walking in the parkade, doing the jigsaw in the second floor lounge. People are friendly but not intrusive. I don't need a lot of company.

Alva, sorry you took a tumble. Hope you heal soon.
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Oh, the third place.
How did I not know that?
My dH knew it.

News:
I sometimes rely on my friends to inform me of important news.
Otherwise, I am busy with ADL's.
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Cwillie, I am on a news break, playing the radio or streaming, honestly I feel very good about it and emotionally healthy.

Have you tried you local library, they might have free classes to. Or a new hobby, Last winter I taught myself how to knit.I made to scarfs and that was the end of my knitting, I may pick it up someday again, who knows.


Sometimes if I need to see people, I'll just go to are local convenient store. Or wonder some or are locally owned gift shops.

I do understand and go through this also, if I remember right , you live alone?

Alva tell N , to shut the News off, doctors orders! 😂
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Now you REALLY have my sympathy. I avoid news like the plague. Quite honestly it has zero to do with my life as I live it unless a quake is here.
N. loves news and is a true junky and to tell you the truth it simply is NOT making him happier in his dotage.
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