That is the last thing I want to hear. also people at work ask how my husband is i tell them very weak and depressed. they say very hateful. well he isnt going to get well overnight. that is like telling someone who is walking through the desert and is thirsty and tired and worn out that you are not going to get out of the desert overnight it will take a long time. they offer no help. no water no nothing. i would rather they just keep their mouth shut. i am so tired of the comments. i dont know if my husband will ever get back to normal and be well. i do know i love him with all my heart. i know there is nothing i would not do for him. he is my heart and i love him so much. i am just tired.
When my mom first got sick I had a friend who kept saying this: "you got 6 in one hand and 1/2 a dozen in the other" I kept saying whatttttttttttttt is she talking about, well just why did she keep saying that. Then it dawned on me it was because she really didn't want to hear what I was saying.
Maybe when people at work ask about your husband, change the subject so they won't ask.
Just keep venting here, that's what this site is for.
Pam
The truth is, we NEED to hear the bright side to keep going whether we want to hear it or not. From what you've said, I don't know if you've heard much of anything good or not. I do know that God doesn't go around placing sickness on people. What kind of father would do that? But I do know that he always works it out for the good. ALWAYS. I personally believe that he's a healer too, because He says he is. I've seen it with my own eyes too. We never see a good end result when we're in the middle of the storm, when all hell is breaking loose around us, but like all storms, whether it's a LOOOONG storm, or a brief one--they pass. I can tell from your story that this has been a LONG one for you. The bright side is is that they DO pass. I'm in one myself. But I have lots of hope. I'll be praying that you and your husband find hope in Christ too. Part of having hope is taking the burdens of life, and "giving it over" to God. When you're "giving it over" to God it just means that you're saying to Him "Here. I can't handle it, but you can!" This issue can only be in either one of two places: your hands or God's hands. If you keep bearing the burden, you'll get tired and stay tired because it's too heavy for you. Don't pick it back up! Yes, in the meantime, you still have to do the daily things to take care of you & your husband, and all the while as a wife go without having that normalcy that a wife should have, but I dare you to choose to look at it from a different perspective: That WHEN you place your problems in God's hands, he's committed to take good care of you and your husband. I'm also praying that your husband would be completely healed. I'm crazy enough to believe that that will happen for you, and when it's all said & done, you'll have a good story to tell-- to give someone else hope!!
**BIG HUG!!**