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Letter from a Mother to a Daughter: "My dear girl, the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If when we talk, I repeat the same thing a thousand times, don’t interrupt to say: “You said the same thing a minute ago”... Just listen, please. Try to remember the times when you were little and I would read the same story night after night until you would fall asleep. When I don’t want to take a bath, don’t be mad and don’t embarrass me. Remember when I had to run after you making excuses and trying to get you to take a shower when you were just a girl? When you see how ignorant I am when it comes to new technology, give me the time to learn and don’t look at me that way... remember, honey, I patiently taught you how to do many things like eating appropriately, getting dressed, combing your hair and dealing with life’s issues every day... the day you see I’m getting old, I ask you to please be patient, but most of all, try to understand what I’m going through. If I occasionaly lose track of what we’re talking about, give me the time to remember, and if I can’t, don’t be nervous, impatient or arrogant. Just know in your heart that the most important thing for me is to be with you. And when my old, tired legs don’t let me move as quickly as before, give me your hand the same way that I offered mine to you when you first walked. When those days come, don’t feel sad... just be with me, and understand me while I get to the end of my life with love. I’ll cherish and thank you for the gift of time and joy we shared. With a big smile and the huge love I’ve always had for you, I just want to say, I love you... my darling daughter. "


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So touching, thank you!
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Great letter, thank you
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The only thing I'd change would be to say it to both daughters & sons.
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This touch my heart.Thank you for sharing.
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Had seen this a few days ago, shared by a friend. I think it is the most loving and caring letter for a mother to express to her child the feelings that come with age.
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So true! When my mom starts to tell me what a "bad" mom she was, I tell her about the happy things I remember even if she doesn't. There were a lot of happy times for all the above reasons.
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Absolutely wonderful......
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So beautiful. Thank you for this....
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Had my mom with me today .She is 86 and I felt so much closer to her because everything ing that letter is true . Sometimes we need to just say thank you to all the care giivers.
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That was beautiful! I've seen it before but thanks for sharing again. I agree with starshine14 - we need to have it read "daughters and sons". I have two sons - so I'm copying it and heading it "Letter from a Mother to Her Son".
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How touching! My mother lived with us the last year of her life. She was diagnosed with cancer after a few monthsand was told she only had a few months left. During one of our many doctors visits she introduced me to the doctor and added " I used to be her mother and now she's mine!" I'm so grateful that it was me that was lucky enough to take care of her until her death, four months after diagnosis. It was the best gift I ever received!!!! xxoxoxo to my little Louise. I miss her every day. MUAH.
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Thats me now my mom is 86 and I now the mom.
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LOVE this! I am going to give this to my mom and aunt. My grandma is 83 and she is beginning to loose her balance and fall. As a matter of fact, she fell a while ago and my mom is taking her to the hospital to be checked out. I have seen this several times and cryed through the whole thing because I can see and hear my grandma saying these things to my mom and aunt. We are loosing this generation faster every day and we need to learn all we can from them. I love you momal.
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Lovely
Really needed to hear this
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my mother isnt likely to be around much longer and it becomes more apparent every day how much she appreciates me. i wouldnt trade this carer experience for anything ive ever done. i dont feel a sense of obligation, more a sense of responsibility and fulfillment. not sacrifice but generousity.
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Thank you. I first saw this on Facebook. I needed to hear this. I try really hard with my mom, but it is still so hard. I love her very much and helping her can be so sad and frustrating too. Reading your letter gave me a good cry, let out some pent up emotions and gave me strength and fortitude to carry on with kindness, love and understanding with my mom. Thank you again. In God's grace, Julie Perry
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This letter has taught me to have so much patience and understanding with my mother. I love her and i know she is getting up there in age.
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I just love this. I had the pleasure of having my Mom live with me from the age of 89 until 93 when shortly thereafter she had a heart attack, was hospitalized, HAD to go into a nursing home where she passed 7 months later. I relish the quality time we had together those 4 years. Did I do everything right? Absolutely not. Was she forgiving? Yes! This poem says it all.
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How do I get a Print?
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The print is for friend.
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I love you...Happy Birthday....Mom
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I was so deeply touched by this! My grandma has been living with my mom for over ten years and now her health is getting worse.We just found out She has cirrhoses of the liver and my mom got mad at my gramma because she doesn't really take care of herself. She doesn't right and she doesn't always want to take a shower and my mom would be kind of rude about it! After showing her this, it helped her remember everything that my grandma did for her growing up! It saved their relationship, and I couldn't be more grateful! I don't know who wrote this but thank you very much, it saved our family!
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I Love my parents, my dad has passed. I just have to say that I have two sister that seems not to care to visit to help or show that they care a little, I'm not trying to judge I just don't understand. My mom needs loving and has been a good person, no of us are perfect, but please don't have a regrets we only have them onces, share just a little of yourself and reach out no matter what.
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This is exactly what my mother must be thinking at the age of 94.....God bless her. There can be many lessons learned from dealing with our elderly parents. Isn't it funny that parents never stop teaching us to be better people. Death is indeed in the picture for every single one of us and it's final. Don't regret being impatient or unkind. Allow your parent to see a loving child who has grown to be a loving adult. It will make them so happy.
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Made me cry.love it
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Beautiful letter. Says it all.
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BEAUTIFUL WORDS TO SAY TO LET YUR DAUGHTER KNOW HOW U REALLY FEELING
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I just lost my Mom who had dementia a few days ago and plan on sharing this letter during her funeral celebration. It touch may heart in many ways and
It depicts how her last years were. I tried to do actually what the mom ask for in the letter and was able to share many hours of love and happiness with her. I will miss her dearly not because she was my mom but because she was my best friend.
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I do try to follow the words in this letter she ha dementi I wish the nursing home staff would understan I wish the nursing home staff would understand that these these people in these homes somebody' somebody's father somebody's somebody's grandmother somebody's grandfather somebody's sister somebody's husband somebody's wife they just treat them like numbers.
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