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I just simple tell S it's time to go to the bathroom... I do this a number of times a day... and I always tell him he may not NEED to go, but we're just making sure... he only wears his 'night pants' as I call them, at night, he hasn't had an accident in a very long time... And the 'hiding' thing, the only thing I can think of is somewhere in their minds there is 'shame' involved... instintivly they know there is something 'wrong' with having dirty underwear.... but a regular bathroom time a few times a day , even if she is reluctant at first, will be good for both of you... let us know what is going on and if any progress is being made..
Regular schedule works here. Upon waking, after lunch, again around 4pm and then at bedtime. Plus if the potty chair is used during the day. Good luck.
I've never had to experience this aspect where they hide their pampers. I've read several people have had that problem. I was wondering how much do you get along with your mother. Any possibility of you buying a nice trash container with a cover, perhaps cover it with pretty wall paper to make it look really pretty. Perhaps if your mom is into gardening or loved flowers, you can get a pretty wallpaper with flowers. Then cover it on the trash can. Bring it to your mom and tell her that you bought this especially just for her. And that she can put in her trash, including her big girl panties in here. Hopefully she will like it and put her pamper in there?
Would she let you help her or remind her to change her pamper? Keep it at a regular schedule. For example, I change my parents' pampers at 630am, anytime in the afternoon but latest is 330pm, and 830pm. By changing their pamper regularly, it becomes a habit. Hopefully? Sorry, I was just brainstorming...
Thank you for insight. Mom does wear disposable underwear...just sits in them until they are completely full and beyond. I'm just afraid she will develop a rash or worse. And yea we call them her big girl panties. And we just go along with the story like you said. Also within the past month or so she has started "hiding" them... in dirty clothes, dresser drawers, etc. And I don't say anything to her...
My father had a stroke last year. Since then, his senility is becoming more and more progressive. I have shown him several times the poop mess in the morning and he just absolutely refuses to believe it's poop. The more I insist it's poop and that he needs to stop touching his pamper at night, the more angry he becomes. Because that is Not Poop and He Does Not Touch his pampers. He angrily tells me to stop treating him like a child. I'm a slow learner. I eventually learned to just keep my mouth shut, and change the bedding, his pants, and clean the mess. He cooperates instead of being angry and uncooperative.
Same applies with his urine. He will tell me that there's water on his bed. I mistakenly said, "That's not water. It's your pee. I can smell it." He got all angry and his mouth went on and on. Like I said, I'm a slow learner.
I read your comment above and I just thought of my dad. It may be useless to tell your mom what is truly wetting that chair. Like Jeanne said, just get the disposable underwear and avoid the arguments/denials. I call these disposable underwears as adult pull-ups.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And the 'hiding' thing, the only thing I can think of is somewhere in their minds there is 'shame' involved... instintivly they know there is something 'wrong' with having dirty underwear.... but a regular bathroom time a few times a day , even if she is reluctant at first, will be good for both of you... let us know what is going on and if any progress is being made..
Would she let you help her or remind her to change her pamper? Keep it at a regular schedule. For example, I change my parents' pampers at 630am, anytime in the afternoon but latest is 330pm, and 830pm. By changing their pamper regularly, it becomes a habit. Hopefully? Sorry, I was just brainstorming...
And yea we call them her big girl panties. And we just go along with the story like you said. Also within the past month or so she has started "hiding" them... in dirty clothes, dresser drawers, etc. And I don't say anything to her...
Same applies with his urine. He will tell me that there's water on his bed. I mistakenly said, "That's not water. It's your pee. I can smell it." He got all angry and his mouth went on and on. Like I said, I'm a slow learner.
I read your comment above and I just thought of my dad. It may be useless to tell your mom what is truly wetting that chair. Like Jeanne said, just get the disposable underwear and avoid the arguments/denials. I call these disposable underwears as adult pull-ups.