Well everyone. I am totally heartbroken as I sit here with tears running down my face. My honey passed away at 2:15 am yesterday morning. I was called at 900 am on Thurs morn and told to get to the hospital as he would be lucky to make it through the day or following day. I called his brother and headed to the hospital and they started their drive up. I was at the hospital from 1100 am Thurs to around 4 am Friday morning. He had told me several times while I was sitting there and before that he was tired and just wanted it over. He held on knowing his brother was on the way. Just before he passed over he asked his brother and sister in law to watch over me and take care of me (they are like my brother and sister). Palliative care stepped in near the last and kept him comfortable and at peace until he passed. I don't know what I would have done without them there. They stayed until today to make sure I was ok and then they had to head home.
Though I am no longer a caregiver if it is ok I would like to still drop in and say hi and add my two cents every once in a while. Y'all have a wonderful weekend and Thanksgiving.
You're always welcomed to come back here to read, comment. Now that both of my parents have passed on, I went through a stage where I felt odd commenting here. Like I no longer belonged here since I'm no longer a caregiver. I found out that others have gone through this, too. And still come back here to comment. Come when you feel the need to update us on your life. It's fine. Anyway, I think some of us would like to see updates with your current mysterious health issue. {{HUGS}}
I'm glad that both you and your honey had loving people with you for comfort and support. Go on taking good care of yourself, now, won't you. Are your BIL & SIL still with you?
God bless and definitely don't be a stranger here.
so sorry, hope you can rest in the days ahead
come back here often, we're still your support
I'm so sorry you lost your Honey.I know you loved him very much and took such good care of him.
I hope you will stay here on AgingCare to give and receive support.
Take good care of yourself in the days ahead.{{{hugs}}}, Lu
Your honey even at the end of his journey was worrying about you and telling his brother and wife to take care of you, his love!
Both, caregivers and our loved ones who we care for, go through so many changes through this journey, that there are moments (so many!) when we feel so tired, so overwhelmed, so sad, angry..so done! And that applies to both sides. But it is all driven by the intense situations we are having to go through. The bottom line and the most undisputable truth is that we LOVE, we love and we live our love with everything it brings, every challenge and every joy.
At the end, when your honey was being let free from all the pain, physical and emotional, he was left with the feeling that is really the only feeling that matters, his link to you which will last forever, his love for his sweet honey!
In the middle of all you’re feeling don’t forget that blessing Dusti, the blessing of his love to you and your love to him. That never leaves, never changes.
Now rest, rest your mind, rest your body. Give yourself time to just be. Then get your life in a new order and do what your honey wants you to do for him, the ultimate gift you can give him and yourself: Take care of YOU!
A big hug and please keep coming by dear Dusti! You and your honey will be in my prayers.