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Given you father's fear of other people, it's a little more difficult, obviously. If you are not in a position to shop for him, most grocery stores are providing curb side pickup. Someone else here mentioned Nextdoor, a social media site for people in many sizes of neighborhoods. I belong to one myself. You can probably sign him up for one in his area, instruct him how to use it --presuming he uses a computer. Post that your father needs some help with grocery delivery. Many people are more than happy to provide this service to elderly in their neighborhoods --for free. If the delivery helper understands that in delivering he/she should wear gloves/mask when holding the bag/box of groceries so that your father sees he has nothing to fear. Your father's asthma puts him at risk much more than the virus itself. If he wants to eat and he needs someone to deliver it to him, these measures should put him at ease. Complaining about all the hazards certainly won't do anyone any good --so try to ignore that. Being 85 and in ill health is surely tougher on him so do what you can to make the arrangements for him.
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😲 OMG PUT ON THE NECESSARY GEAR ON SUCH AS GLOVES AND A MASK AND HELP HER OUT WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER ❤ WE NEED TO BE CREATIVE EXSPECISLLY WITH OUR ELDERLY PEOPLE GOD WILL BLESS YOU. GOD BLESS 💘 DOROTHY
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GingerMay Mar 2020
I assume you are not yelling at me, and just got stuck on Caps Lock? I live in a hot spot. Don't even want to walk out my door. Engaging services locally for him is the best option. He has made no alternate plans. I could let him figure it out, but he is not computer savvy. I just completed some online orders on his behalf, and found a pharmacy that will do free delivery to seniors. I felt relieved and called to inform him of these arrangements. Do you want to know how he responded? He said he was too busy to talk, angrily told me I had too much anxiety and was not handling it well and to go watch Dr. Phil for some pointers then hung up.
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Amazon has a pantry min. $35 free delivery Walmart you can order pantry items min. $35 but be prepared lots of items are in
bulk
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NeedHelpWithMom Mar 2020
Maybe neighbors could share the costs of bulk items and order items to be split up amongst each other. I have done this with my neighbor before going to buy in bulk at Sam’s Club.

Fortunately my husband is doing the shopping because I have asthma too. I have been hospitalized for my asthma. I do have a nebulizer for home use and I have my inhaler.

I just heard a medical report that stated if we need to use our nebulizers at home, we need to use it alone in a room in order not contaminate others.

I was on a breathing machine in the hospital but the doctor also insisted that I use my nebulizer (breathing treatment) at home after being released from my hospital stay. I hate having asthma.

It’s miserable and is frightening at times. I have been in danger with severe asthma attacks and had to remain in the hospital until I improved.
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Thank you everyone for the helpful advice. I am pursuing these options for him. Very grateful for your advice.
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I agree with NextDoor if you shopping for him is not an option- I've seen many posts where folks have offered to help shop and deliver. Some grocery stores have curbside pickup as well so that is another good option. I believe they may load into the car (would have to ask). One of my friends sprays the bags with lysol for her mom before she brings them in. My mom is 81 and isn't concerned (she hasn't left the house since November due to bad mobility and pain), however, I still unpack her groceries, wash my hands and wipe down surfaces when done (pretty much did all this before Covid so nothing has really changed lol).
With your dad having asthma, extra precautions will need to be taken. I would avoid even more now from putting bags on counters. He may be a little more at ease wearing gloves, but he will definitely want to ensure to disinfect surfaces.
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Yes, I think as long as he follows precautions, I think he would be safe to do curbside pickup. Or is there anyone such as a neighbor,friend, or family member who can shop for him? If he does shop, I would also suggest shopping during "senior hours" to maximize his safety. Good practice is to wash hands when he gets back from the store, unpack the groceries,and then wash his hands again. Additionally, he could use disinfecting wipes to wipe down the groceries prior to putting them away. Amazon may be an option as well depending on his needs.
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No, he should not leave his house. Can you order from Amazon Fresh or other delivery services for him?
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Kroger has delivery-- call 'em !
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Meals on wheels, Catholic charities deliver now.
Hugs 🤗
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Contact his local church. They have lots of contacts w/ food banks and volunteers. Or ask a neighbor of his. There are many helpers out there if you ask. Wipe down all bags before bringing them in the house.
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Meals on Wheels? I keep thinking Im not carying it.. I need to start wearing the gloves etc.. My spouse had asthma as a kid,, BIL has COPD,,, so it runs in the family.
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I work for IHSS which gives aid to the elderly who want to stay in their home, but need assistance with the day to day tasks. This field of work is growing as some nursing homes have bad reputations. It is available in most states. Once he is comfortable with an a assistant, he could confidently get all he needs. If your close (or not) you can find a provider in his area. Google IHSS. Even during this pandemic, providers are still working with strict guidelines to protect their recipients and flaten the spread.
I hope you find a solution for your dad. Good luck and God Bless.
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In my community we have the Nextdoor app. Many people are offering to help to their neighbors in different ways. You might want to see if this app is available in his area. Maybe if his groceries are delivered a neighbor could come over and disinfect them before he takes them into his house.Good luck to you both.
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Why is this poor man living alone and shopping for himself?
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worriedinCali Apr 2020
Do you really think all 85 year olds are demented invalids? That are a lot of folks in their 80’s and 90s who are able to live independently. He’s only 85 for Gods sake!
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Be careful about wearing gloves. There is a certain way those gloves need to be taken off [inside out] so if there are any contaminants on the gloves it doesn't go airborne. That's one reason why said gloves are only used once in medical settings.

If you are wearing gardening gloves for the virus, the removal is the same process, then throw into the wash.
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Oh Ginger, I am so sorry that he is being ugly to you.

I would back off and let them figure it out.

You don't deserve the abuse for caring enough to worry. Let him ask for help before you do anything else.

Ya know, no plan is a choice that he has made. Choices have consequences.

Take care of you, find ways to be productive and this will pass.
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I notice everyone talks about masks, gloves and Lysol spray like everyone was able to score some! My poor sister couldn't even find a thermometer and hand sanitizer, and she has had a fever for a week!
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