After 31 years of marriage, my 62 year old husband went to heaven August 1st. He is no longer uncomfortable, frustrated, declining, tired, and hurting. AgingCare site has been a big help to me being his caregiver. A place to go to vent or ask a question, and read other caregivers concerns and to know that I/we are not alone, in any step in life. Anyone who lost their loved one, have any suggestions to help with this loss empty feeling, I would sincerely appreciate it.
I just brought him back home from the VA they give him hours or a day or two
there’s absolutely no easy fix to this situation as we have cared and loved them for so long we must consider their quality of life and their comfort . We can’t be selfish and keep holding onto
them. I wanted a feeding tube and IV fluids the Drs refused . He can’t go on life support or be shocked nor can they fur chest compressions due to a 9.8 aorta aneurism he has covid which has complicated all his other health issues.
i lost my first husband to brain cancer , now Rick has dementia and Parkinson’s and many other problems.
All we can do is remember who they once were. What they loved to do or watch on TV . Remember the loving days spent together , But know they are now happy , healthy Young again . No longer will they ever be sick or in pain they won’t have to face a world that’s declining where there’s such bitterness and hatred . Yes we are left behind this is the hardest thing I’ve gone through , I know he’s hungry and thirsty but he can no longer swallow and I’m told it’s selfish and almost cruel to keep him clinging to life. They want him to just get morphine to help him pass in somewhat comfort .
it’s heart breaking laying next to
him rubbing his head holding his hand until he takes his last breath.
But I know when Jesus calls him home he will be welcomed into Gods kingdom so I will thank God for the time he kept us together . I’ll thank God he’s no longer suffering . How glorious to know how forgiving and loving Jesus is
So continue to pray , give praise to Jesus for dying on the cross so we might be saved . I will miss my husband so much but he will always be a part of me ,
I pray you find peace and I hope you have family and friends to support you. There are many out here who have lost spouses and each of us goes through it in. Different way . God keep you in his loving arms and sends his angels to be around you through these coming months . God bless 🙏🙏🙏💕😢
Books on grief can be helpful. When you can read for pleasure, try reading again. Take care of yourself. Eat better, nap, exercise a little, take time to focus on you, even if it is just a little something here and there. Your grief will change slowly and you will know this as time passes. Some recommend writing in a journal. You can look back and see how far you have come.