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Sounds like a great idea to me, assuming she has some form of dementia or Alhz.
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If you were being "fully honest" with her, you would have to explain that modern medicine is a scene of madness, and the bracelet is there to protect her from doctors who know full well that they shouldn't be trying to resuscitate 94-year olds, that the outcomes at this age are *terrible*, but will do it anyway if she doesn't have the bracelet to protect her. 

You'd probably also have to explain that, in an earlier era, many people were genuinely cared for at the end of life and not treated as a sack of parts to be hooked up to this or that machine. But medicine organized itself into a "profession" (originally based on expertise in the application of leeches), vanquished the healers, hoarded control of palliative medicines, and here we are.

Sorry for the hyperbole. Really, though, there is no "honest" explanation that she'd be able to understand now. And saying something like "this bracelet stops doctors from restarting your heart and saving you" actually *isn't* honest. It's one of those partial truths that is, in effect, an appalling lie.

Your mom is lucky to have you.
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Beatty Jun 2023
Interesting thoughts.
Maybe we should all be wearing bracelets with DNH : Do No Harm.
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You aren’t wrong. It’s a great idea.
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This is not wrong . You are making sure your mother’s wishes will be followed regarding her care.
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I say good for you for coming up with a creative solution to get her to wear the bracelet.
Who cares what the other family member thinks? If mom and you are happy with it, that is all that matters.
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NeedHelpWithMom Jun 2023
Yep!
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Absolutely not. Your mom lacks the capacity to understand what it is, wearing it will allow her wishes to be followed in the event of a collapse. I think it's great that you've found a way for her to wear it :)
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