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This may sound stupid, but there is a difference between washing the hair and washing the head. I have long hair, and I know that my greasy scalp needs washing more than my actual hair. Could you convince her that her scalp needs a wash, but agree about the hair? Perhaps you could do a wipe behind her ears and show her some evidence. She may remember the old line of ‘don’t forget to wash behind your ears’. If the suggestion works, the hair will get a reasonable wash as well as the scalp.
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Does she have any physical problems that are barriers to showering?

Would she be using a shower stall or need to step over the bathtub side? I have a bad knee and even though I'm 25 years younger than your mother, stepping over the side of the bathtub is sometimes difficult because the knee is too stiff or swollen to bend well. I have a grab bar installed at shoulder height just outside the tub surround so I can maintain balance while getting that stiff knee over the side of my soaker tub.

Does she dislike getting "hit" in the face with the shower spray or needing to turn in the shower to rinse all sides of her body? My mother didn't like showers much until she experienced hand held shower heads in the rehab hospital. Once we installed one for her at home, she loved showers.

Is your mother concerned about maintaining her balance in the wet tub? Rehab hospitals recommend grab bars, shower stools or transfer chairs, and/or a towel placed in the bottom of the tub/shower. An added benefit of the shower stool is that it's easier for an aid to assist in washing your mother's hair.

By the 80s (and sometimes sooner) most adults become much more sensitive to cool temperatures. Is the bath a few degrees warmer so she doesn't feel a chill? I heat the bathroom to about 80 degrees for my mom.

Hope some of this stuff is helpful.
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My husband is bedridden an isn’t able to get into our non-accessible shower. I wash him down every day, sometimes twice. I use baby wash because his skin is sensitive. I pay particular attention to “down there” because he is incontinent.

Poor hygiene is the #1 cause of bladder infections. And in Seniors, those can be really rough. But, I understand why Mom doesn’t want to shower. With bad shoulders and back, showering and dressing for me is a real effort. But when I don’t, even for a day, I feel dirty and itchy.

Have you told her she has an odor? Have you told her that her hair is dirty and it smells (and probably itches as well)? Have you said you’d like to go on a nice day trip and buy her clothes, maybe go to a hair salon and go out to lunch but you can’t because of her poor hygiene? If she truly doesn’t have dementia, maybe a little tough love is called for?
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