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I realize everyone is trying to reply to the OP with constructive suggestions, but this OP has said she has Alzheimer's herself. She's put forth incredibly inprobable scenarios as fact, like saying that both her brother with dementia, whom she says she is caring for, and she are both independently working. Like many with dementia or Alz, she can't keep her thoughts together and lashes out when the obvious solution is suggested, such as they need to get help. Not just with this, but the situation at large.
It kinda doesn't matter what we tell her. She needs some sort of advocate or attorney, preferably both, to elucidate exactly what the probate issue is. These are complex matters difficult for anyone to understand, so I don't think she can get it.
So Mom has passed. Did she have a Will? If not her estate is intestate. This means you need to go to Probate and become her Administrator. This will give you the ability to handle her estate. You will get a short certificate you can use with the bank. You will need to pay any outstanding bills. Find where her money is and do an accting of everything. When all is said and done, the State will determine who gets her estate. If you are an only child, you will inherit. If not, the estate will be split among ur siblings.
In my State, if the estate is under 20,000 you sign an affidavit. Again you get a short certificate to handle everything.
If there is a Will, then what is written in it needs to be carried out no matter what you agreed to before. What is left after bills are paid is what beneficiaries get.
If by PI you mean POA, that stops at time of death. If a Will, the Executor is responsible to carry out Moms wishes. If no Will, then Probate can assign an Adminstrator who is responsible for doing the same thing as an Executor but like I said, the State determines who inherits.
If Probate is open, who is handling it?
"well don't I have to tell judge I want monies" The answer to that is if there is or is not a Will. I explained above what happens in each instance.
You are bemoaning that NOW it's cold and you can't get her DL?
I don't think you need her DL to enact the will. You need proof of who YOU are, b/c there's no way you can get mom's if she has died.
I can't believe your local DL division is requiring people to stand out in the cold. COVID is still a factor, but my guess would be you'd call ahead and get an appointment. Then wear masks and properly distance.
When did you go? Usually Wed in the middle of the month there are less crowds compared to the beginning and end of the month. Also, get there when the first open again, said middle of the month.
The bank wanted a my mom's driver's license to add me as beneficiary. it was expired . My mother was crying, I told her I would get the monies not to worry. Now I' wondering what can be done .I was her PI however too many threats I couldnt do ..tysProbate is open ...geezz
Banks have records Yes, I could have got her a driver's license however 2 to 3 hour wait out in cold 88 years of age during COVID19 2020 No way any recourse
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APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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It kinda doesn't matter what we tell her. She needs some sort of advocate or attorney, preferably both, to elucidate exactly what the probate issue is. These are complex matters difficult for anyone to understand, so I don't think she can get it.
In my State, if the estate is under 20,000 you sign an affidavit. Again you get a short certificate to handle everything.
If there is a Will, then what is written in it needs to be carried out no matter what you agreed to before. What is left after bills are paid is what beneficiaries get.
If by PI you mean POA, that stops at time of death. If a Will, the Executor is responsible to carry out Moms wishes. If no Will, then Probate can assign an Adminstrator who is responsible for doing the same thing as an Executor but like I said, the State determines who inherits.
If Probate is open, who is handling it?
"well don't I have to tell judge I want monies" The answer to that is if there is or is not a Will. I explained above what happens in each instance.
Mom has passed..or not?
You are bemoaning that NOW it's cold and you can't get her DL?
I don't think you need her DL to enact the will. You need proof of who YOU are, b/c there's no way you can get mom's if she has died.
I can't believe your local DL division is requiring people to stand out in the cold. COVID is still a factor, but my guess would be you'd call ahead and get an appointment. Then wear masks and properly distance.
I'm just really confused here.
What does the drivers license have to do with it?