My mother is 94 and up until 2 months ago, she was perfectly fine. Completely independent. She managed her entire life with very little assistance from me. She was hospitalized for 10 days and rehab for another 10 due to a bowel obstruction. Mother came home a different person. She can't remember how to do any little thing, totally confused about days, has to use a walker and wears diapers. She fixates on things and worries way more than she used to do. I do pretty much everything for her now. She will ask me 100 times how to do the same thing. Mother got upset two days ago and asked me what happened to her? I honestly don't know. The hospital changed her medicines and she had to be put to sleep for a procedure. Does anyone have any experience like this?
If you know you are sensitive to anesthetics, it pays to talk to the anesthesiologist about this before surgery.
I had retina re-attachment surgery as an emergency outpatient at a major hospital. I didn’t realise at the time that it’s quite a major operation that takes well over an hour of surgery. It involves elevating the eyeball and lasering very close to the optic nerve, which goes straight into the brain. I don’t know what anesthetic I had, but it certainly wasn’t a general and I was fully conscious throughout. My guess now is that (as well as eliminating an overnight hospital admission), they avoided a general to minimise messing with the brain. I’ve always seen the anesthetist visits before and after as being a routine greeting thing that I had no input into. Your post suggests that it’s well worth discussions with the anesthetist. Thank you!
At some point you decide whether hospital trips are worth the side effects of delirium. My mom conked her head and split it open, and by the time I got to the hospital an hour after she got there, she was out of her mind crazy. She was yowling and crying and throwing such hysterics that they decided to release her after having already admitted her. She had one more lengthy hospital stay 18 months later with similar effects, and after that I said we were done with hospitals and we'd treat her as best as possible at her nursing home. I put her on hospice, she had better care than she'd had in a Covid-choked hospital, and she died peacefully in her own bed seven months later -- a year ago today.
Emotionally she is still struggling and came home just like your mom wearing incontinence briefs, using a walker and needing constant care, feeling helpless and sometimes, hopeless. I have tried everything but we just can't get back where she was.
My mom also fixates on things, has OCD behaviors and is getting to the point that she can't do anything for herself. I hope that your mom recovers. If I could do things over I certainly would never allowed her to stay in the TCU for so long.
She was hospitalized twice in the past 8 weeks, suffered delirium both times and came home with more decline. At least this time I was keenly aware of delirium from hospitalizations and did everything possible to advocate for her for a quick release, home, I will never put her in a TCU again or allow anyone I care about to go to one. I was pleasantly surprised that most of the doctors we had these last two times were keenly aware of what hospitalizations can do to an elderly person and were in agreement about getting her home. We have also decided that if something happens we will not be going back to the hospital and have started hospice.
I empathize with you and pray that your mom comes around. It may take time. In the meantime concentrate on keeping her safe and happy. You are doing all you can for her and some things are out of our control. She is lucky to have you. I am hoping with posts like yours we can educate others on this very important subject.
I'm also going to guess that they've put her on a daily dose of Mira Lax which seems to be the go-to for elderly constipation and is horrible for people with dementia.
My 95 yo mother was put on Mira Lax after extreme constipation following a hip surgery in early 2020 and I was giving it to her daily. Very quickly, her dementia got worse with delusions and sundowning for hours every night. After some research, I took her off of the Mira Lax and began to give her Milk of Magnesia. The difference has been amazing. No more sundowning, no more hallucinations or delusions. It took a few months for her to recover from the Polyethylene Glycol that was in her brain, but it's so much better now.