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I would like to ask you: How old is your father. Do you still work. Do you have small children. Is your mother still alive and living with your father. I believe these are important questions to asses your needs,
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If money isn’t a problem for your Dad, then he should pay for an in-home care giver. You and your siblings are entitled to your own lives. You should all visit when you can or want to. Every family has different circumstances surrounding care giving for a parent. Your Dad is lucky he has funds.
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Perhaps deal with the time, not just the money. You are putting 2 full days into driving to and from your father’s house. So your week with him needs the travel time knocked off, and father can work out how to get the care he wants for the 2 days you are on the road.

If this was my own dreadful father, the whole thing would be a game that he is enjoying watching. It’s called ‘Let’s you and him fight’, the ‘him’ being your brothers. If you suspect this is what’s going on, just stop stepping up. Do what you want, when you want.
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I can certainly understand how these trips are a financial, physical and emotional burden. Unfortunately, if you don't want to alienate your siblings, you have to let this one go. I spent tons of money on my parents care and safety proofing their home, shopping, and a thousand other incidentals. I never asked for reimbursement and none was ever offered. Now that my parents are gone, none of that matters. I applaud you for making these trips and in time you will look back and be glad you did.
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