First of all I just want to say how this forum been so supportive, encouraging, and informative to me. I’m the youngest of 7 siblings, 2 of which live in the same state as I am. I’m 37. I have a great job, and I’m pretty much a successful mid-level career professional . I live with my parents by choice. From the min I graduated college, I took it upon myself to take care of them and I took over the house finances and all their expenses. Again by choice. Two years ago mom was diagnosed by dementia, she is now stage 5. I continue to work full time, take care of all finances and manage doc appts, and take care of her full time. My two sisters do help, but because they have their own family they can only care for mom for limited hours during the day. Mom started not sleeping much at night, which means I’m also awake with her and have to report to work next day. I booked a hotel nearby and told my sisters to take care of mom for 3 nights so I can sleep. I was shocked by their negative reaction to my request, they even hung up the phone on me. Am I wrong for asking just 3 nights a week to sleep? I’m now being treated as if I committed a crime for requesting that. I feel stuck and burned out.
The OP has zero right to tell sisters what to do, how to do it or what time to be there.
The OP asks if asking for 3 nights sleep is OK. My problem is with the presumption that the sisters must provide it - must be on the OP"s roster.
They have a right to help in the way they choose - not be told.