Our dad with moderate (and if this is moderate, we're in for a rocky road!) dementia greatly resents his loss of control of driving, finances, etc. Although he loves our mom, he HATES her right now, too! He has made it very clear her doesn't want to live with her anymore and has even become more aggressive towards her (hitting, kicking, ...) We need to transition him into a board and care but he absolutely REFUSES to leave his house! Any suggestions?
My guess is that your father needs to be on antipsychotic or other medication to handle his emotions, at least for a while. I know of many people who were impossible to handle, but on the right medication, they became reasonable and even happier with their life.
If worse comes to worst, you could call the cops on him to get him hospitalized for a psych evaluation. That would obviously be a last resort if needed to keep him from injuring someone.
This is a horrible situation for all of you, but especially for you.
im not making fun. its just if you dont find something to laugh a, life will chew you up and spit you out..