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mshell, I read on your profile that you're taking care of, what three people? None of them are related is that right? I don't know, it just said 'other' Anyway, if you're not related but are still making sure they're being taken care of, then I'm assuming you have a 'servants heart'. and that in of itself is enough of a reason to reach out to them.
Ms Helen, I think that many people did want to do it when they started out. They didn't really know what they were getting into and how all-consuming the role could become. And now that they have been doing it, perhaps for years, they scarcely have the energy to arrange things so that they can stop.
And I think many people who are doing it because they want to have moments or days when they can't stand it another minute! But that will pass. They come here to vent during that hard time.
People who want to and aren't (at the moment) having a lot of stress from it may not seek out discussion boards at all.
Likewise people who don't want to and haven't may not be seeking out discussion boards.
So what you read on here may look like nobody who is taking care of a parent wants to do it. I don't think that is true at all. It is just the nature of who comes on to these discussion boards and the frame of mind they are in at the time they post.
It is a good question, though, and should stimulate some interesting discussion.
Addie, my heart goes out to you. Caretaking is a demanding, stressful job, and to feel like you are "stuck" in it without having any say in the matter can only make it worse. Are you in the US? I would have thought that virtually anyone could qualify for Medicaid and nursing home care if they could not afford it themselves. Am I niave about that?
I think your question has an underlying assumption that there are other options and finances to implement those options. I think a lot of people here including me had no viable, safe, financially doable alternative choice in the matter of ensuring the relative we are responsible for is safe and cared for. What I personally wanted was never part of the discussion.
Well, I wouldn't if I didn't want to, at least not personally. I would ensure a safe and clean environment, out of decency and obligation. Day-to-day personal contact? Nope, only if I wanted to. My dear mother is a decent, caring person. I think all of us kids have picked that up. But Ma didn't raise any martyrs, bless her heart.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
And I think many people who are doing it because they want to have moments or days when they can't stand it another minute! But that will pass. They come here to vent during that hard time.
People who want to and aren't (at the moment) having a lot of stress from it may not seek out discussion boards at all.
Likewise people who don't want to and haven't may not be seeking out discussion boards.
So what you read on here may look like nobody who is taking care of a parent wants to do it. I don't think that is true at all. It is just the nature of who comes on to these discussion boards and the frame of mind they are in at the time they post.
It is a good question, though, and should stimulate some interesting discussion.
Addie, my heart goes out to you. Caretaking is a demanding, stressful job, and to feel like you are "stuck" in it without having any say in the matter can only make it worse. Are you in the US? I would have thought that virtually anyone could qualify for Medicaid and nursing home care if they could not afford it themselves. Am I niave about that?