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Dementia can lead to depression. It can also lead to apathy. If she is depressed, she may be helped by anti-depressants. Consult with a neurologist.
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First off try to remember that the reason so many refuse to make friends is because they die. So you can make a friend today and tomorrow they are dead. Sorry but that is a fact of life where your mom is living.

Most of the activities that I have seen are for those with mobility and mental disabilities.

With the nice weather why not try to get her involved in gardening in flower boxes. She will be outside, getting enjoyable exercise and doing something creative.

Why not try jig saw puzzles.

If you are getting her out, why not take her someplace in nature like a nature conservatory, those are great places the whole family can enjoy.
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Some people love to be unhappy. Just say something like, "I am sorry you feel that way", Give a kiss and change the subject.

I was married to a man like that. Therapy taught me that I can't make someone feel anything. You are only responsible for what you are feeling and can do. Oh I got a divorce.
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marte48 May 2021
So, he was right - you really didn't care what he thought or felt.
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Sounds like she is doing the best she can under the circumstances.
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MaryKathleen May 2021
marte48, I try not to post long responses. I tried to "make him happy" for over 25 years. As I used to tell my therapist, I feel like he is a lock and I have a handfull of keys, and if I could just find the right key, he would be happy. Finally, I realized that if I found the key, he would change the lock.
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Imho, perhaps she was the type of individual to never engage in hobbies all her life. I am glad to hear that you are getting her out two times a week.
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It might just as simple as, because of the dementia, its not that she won’t but more likely that she can’t. I joined a caretakers group over a year ago and have learned so much. I did not join because of my husbands issues but because of how I was treating him. It was frustrating and I hated the way I lost my temper with him. The first meeting I attended, I was a bit taken back when I heard , his brain was broken. It was the beginning of me understanding the his losses were maybe even greater than my own .
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