My 90 yr old dad flirts with a lady in his senior living residence. Staff/Director is demanding we pay an extra 'sitting' fee so he doesn't touch her or anyone inappropriately. They are threatening that if something happens, it is a felony and he could go to jail. We live in Oklahoma. Help! We can't afford to hire a sitter ($5000/mo) on top of his Senior Living care ($4500). When we said we may have to take him to another place, they said he might not be accepted since they have 'incident' reports on him. My dad is not aggressive, just friendly with some dementia. Seems like a shake down to me. Any advice would be helpful.
The woman's family if they are the POA (power of attorney) can ask to see her records but not his (HIPPA). There are so many unanswered questions here. Does either of the two residents involved have dementia? What exactly do you mean by flirting, is any physical contact involved. If not, then no you can't charge the man with a felony or assault!!
The best thing the family could do is set up a meeting with the home and asked more questions. If this woman is being bothered by the man there are things the home can try without violating either resident's rights.
The family should call their local Long-term Care Ombudsman office and have them investigate. The Ombudsman is the Federally Mandated Advocates for residents in long-term care. It is a free service to residents and their families and is available in all States.
As we tend to lean towards the humor in this situation, the reality is we never know what goes on in the minds of alz/dem patients. I was encouraged that enough of my mom's true self was in her to defend herself against unwanted advance.
Here is a thought that might need looking into: has Dr checked meds on the male LO? I have read that some medications can ramp up the libido. And I agree, this seems like a shakedown.
Hope answers come your way!