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SecretSister has some great suggestions. Also, your Alzheimer's Association may have ideas, and if nothing else, if you belong to a spiritual community, look into starting one. Caregivers are everywhere and need each other.
I hope you fine a group or start one. Take care, Carol
While you are looking for a local support group near you, keep in touch with this site as it will bring you information, good-sound advice from caring people. It has helped me tremendously and I hope you will continue to visit it and it do the same for you. This site is a daily reminder to us all that we are not alone and just when we think we have it 'so bad' we will read an article of someone who is having life served to them that is much worse than ours. We read, acknowledge, pray and trust in the Lord, thanking Him for His blessings such as this site and Carol for all her good works in helping others .... like us!
Did you ask the Social Worker at the place where your mom is doing rehab? How about your local Commission on Aging office? Or Senior Services, Senior Center, or Area Agency on Aging? Whatever the name, most cities have them, or some type of support available. You could even ask at her physician's office if they can direct you somewhere. It depends on the area you live in, and they type of support group you are looking for. They aren't always well attended, because many caregivers find it hard to get out to meetings. If there's a place that offers Day Care or respite services, you may find something there.
You can also find information, services and programs at the ElderCare Locator (www.eldercare.gov). Wishing you the best in your search. Support Groups are very helpful. many also will help with respite while you are attending the Support Group.
I know of this service called Elder Helpers: http://www.elderhelpers.org they have over 5,000 volunteers in the country their facebook cause says. Their site is pretty groovy and I see that some good testimonials are on it but I haven't actually tried the service myself yet.
Hello, I have cared for both my elderlly mother and father for over 7 years. In January of 2010 my father passed away in my home. I have been caring for my mother (now alone) in my home since dad died. She has become mean, says hateful things about me and is constantly harassing me. I broke my hip last November and was hospitalized, went through surgery and placed in physical rehabilitation during that time. I was then forced to retire as an educator of 40 years due to my physical condition. Since she has been living here I have been placed on medication and my physical health is deteriorating. Just last week had 2 endoscopy's to try and find out why I cannot swallow my food. I have 2 capable brothers who have done nothing to assist in helping me with my mother. The one brother is a psychologist (his wife a psychologist also) and they refuse to help in her care. He only calls her and does not drive to see here. The other brother has been absent for many years as he and my mother never had a communicative relationship. You see, I am doing this 24/7 without help and now I have health issues which are serious. I need to find out how I can get help in someone speaking to my brother (the psychologist) that now I need his help. He does not answer my text messages, calls, and when I was in the hospital last year would not let my mother stay in his home...she had to stay in this house everyday alone until I returned from a 1 month stay in the hospital for my hip. I need help as this is affecting my health. How can you help me. She refuses to leave, sleeps on the couch when I have a 5 bedroom home, constantly antagonizes/provokes me, makes me feel guilty. I am harassed by her daily and also she has a urine-like order that permeates. She bathes daily but this does not seem to help. I am an educated women who is worth something...how can you assist in getting my psychologist brother to begin to deal with this situation? Enough is enough as I am worn out. My e-mail is mistymaryk@hotmail.com. My phone # is (661) 424-1957. Cell # is (818) 687-6243. Please ask to speak directly to me. Please assist. Thank you.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
A.
I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I hope you fine a group or start one.
Take care,
Carol
While you are looking for a local support group near you, keep in touch with this site as it will bring you information, good-sound advice from caring people.
It has helped me tremendously and I hope you will continue to visit it and it do the same for you. This site is a daily reminder to us all that we are not alone and just when we think we have it 'so bad' we will read an article of someone who is having life served to them that is much worse than ours. We read, acknowledge, pray and trust in the Lord, thanking Him for His blessings such as this site and Carol for all her good works in helping others .... like us!
God bless you on your journey.
You can look up resources by state.
I have cared for both my elderlly mother and father for over 7 years. In January of 2010 my father passed away in my home. I have been caring for my mother (now alone) in my home since dad died. She has become mean, says hateful things about me and is constantly harassing me. I broke my hip last November and was hospitalized, went through surgery and placed in physical rehabilitation during that time. I was then forced to retire as an educator of 40 years due to my physical condition. Since she has been living here I have been placed on medication and my physical health is deteriorating. Just last week had 2 endoscopy's to try and find out why I cannot swallow my food. I have 2 capable brothers who have done nothing to assist in helping me with my mother. The one brother is a psychologist (his wife a psychologist also) and they refuse to help in her care. He only calls her and does not drive to see here. The other brother has been absent for many years as he and my mother never had a communicative relationship. You see, I am doing this 24/7 without help and now I have health issues which are serious. I need to find out how I can get help in someone speaking to my brother (the psychologist) that now I need his help. He does not answer my text messages, calls, and when I was in the hospital last year would not let my mother stay in his home...she had to stay in this house everyday alone until I returned from a 1 month stay in the hospital for my hip. I need help as this is affecting my health. How can you help me. She refuses to leave, sleeps on the couch when I have a 5 bedroom home, constantly antagonizes/provokes me, makes me feel guilty. I am harassed by her daily and also she has a urine-like order that permeates. She bathes daily but this does not seem to help. I am an educated women who is worth something...how can you assist in getting my psychologist brother to begin to deal with this situation? Enough is enough as I am worn out. My e-mail is mistymaryk@hotmail.com. My phone # is (661) 424-1957. Cell # is (818) 687-6243. Please ask to speak directly to me. Please assist. Thank you.
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