My mom is delightful when she is healthy. She is independent and thriving. When she falls ill, she calls me early in the morning and I'm off and running. Getting to her, getting in touch with the right doc for the ailment that is occurring. She is sometimes on top of her finances, mostly, and now there are some oops moments. Life has become chaotic and I find that it takes me much too much time to get back on a schedule. My work is deteriorating, my friends don't count on seeing me anymore, my fitness and eating are off track. Right now for example I am writing on this site, after reading some wonderful, reassuring posts, I'm afraid to pick up the phone and make appointments for myself, because lately I've cancelled so many. Mom's health has been up and down. We are interviewing help this afternoon, but I'm not even sure we know what is needed since the situation is such a roller coaster. I know it will be terminal... but for now, and for possibly years... her life and my life have fallen into utter chaos and I can say for sure, I've lost the discipline to keep moving forward. I'm indecisive and would appreciate any tips and tricks and suggestions from others who have found a way to keep order where there is none. Thank you for listening and for your anticipated good suggestions.
HUGS HUGS, AND MORE HUGS TO YOU....
I'm so unfamiliar with what will be the final end of life, it's such a HUGE thing, that every little thing scares me, sets me on edge and I try to be there to help save my sweet mom's life. Yes, .... what is the definition of an emergency? We will keep talking and try to define that and hopefully things will settle down... Last week we got help for the dentist and blood test appointments. Those for sure where not emergencies. This is living. I am thankful that I still have my beautiful mom around and that she is our 'family' and that we can appreciate how lucky we are to have her still with us. Thank you for your ideas... they all help to make me think!
I play this little game with myself sometimes, like in the morning, I get up and get as much done prior to my parents getting up as I can... then while they eat breakfast or lunch, I do the same, I do laundry or dishes, running from task to task... I think of it like a game show! "Beat the Clock!" Type game! Make it fun, see how much you can get done in those few moments here and there! :)
Your mother is now in independent living, right? Is it time to consider a transition to assisted living? You would still be getting the calls about taking her to a doctor I'm afraid, so if that is the only cause of the chaos, I don't know how much that would help. You could relax about her between calls. Would that help?
It sounds like it is time to take over her finances if she is beginning to have oops episodes. It is easier to take control, set up automatic payments, and monitor everything online, that to try to straighten problems out after the fact.
Do you have POA?