I am 78 and in fairly good health, but just had a knee replacement and need the other done, and probably a shoulder in the next couple years. My husband 84 is very healthy but has had Alzheimer’s for 8 years and is in late mid stage. My two sons and families live 40 miles from me, there is a good care facility within a mile of their homes, also an equilivalent home within a couple of miles of me. Would it be better to have him near them, or closer to me. Both sons want to be involved and are wanting him near them. Both feel his care has become too much for me. RP
- Although it may be a good idea to have your DH placed closer to you, you have a few health criteria to deal with for yourself.
- Your sons may indeed mean well, but they have families of their own.
- Perhaps you have considered moving closer to your sons.
- If YOU were to move, albeit it a major step, you could have your DH placed in the facility 40 miles away/near your sons.