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I take care of a dementia patient, who punched me whenever I changed his diaper and beddings. I am a live in caregiver. I serve him all his daily meals and daily medication.
My child and I endured three months of significant physical and verbal abuse before my husbands care providers believed that the "quiet mild mannered man" with dementia was capable of violence. Finally, he was hospitalized and threw chairs at staff and more. Someone finally believed us and he was medicated. Keep calling the Doctor. Call every time you are abused. Document bruises, cuts, scratches every time they occur. He may not be competent but you are at risk. Take action before you reach the point we did. He is now institutionalize, but the damage is done. Relationships are strained and the child who was is primary target will be in counseling for a long time
Is he able to change his undergarment by himself? A man would have a hard time having a woman do that, and if he is really physically harming you perhaps you need to find another place to live. No caregiver needs to be hit by anyone much less a person with dementia. If you work for an agency, have them send a male or someone else. I was never hit, but plenty of unpleasant moments.
I agree that you ought to try to read him and change your technique, but ABOVE ALL keep yourself safe! And, yes, he ought to be evaluated for medication especially if this is a regular occurrence.
Dementia or not, assault is assault.
You used the past tense in your statement. Are you still his caregiver? If so, I'd be very cautious if you're sticking around to care for him. Make sure there are no objects within his reach that he could strike you with. Not that his fists aren't bad enough, but you don't want a lamp over your head or, God forbid, having him pull a gun from his bedside table. Be authoritative in dealing with him.
Try relaxing first.Clients pick up quickly on your mood. Don't go in with the sole purpose of "changing the diaper." Sit a moment, make conversation about anything.Do a little dusting, whatever. Remember that despite their dementia they still do suffer the embarrassment and indignity of not being able to attend to these very private moments of toileting.Many can not admit to themselves they are incontinent. Then try something like" Let me help you change" Get the diaper ready and if he is able let him help.Take your time.Don't rush.It's a struggle for them.Talk about the weather etc.It helps distracts them. Be sure that when you put the diaper on it's comfortable.He may be experiencing pain, pinching, chafing or other that has made the change a dreaded experience.Many patients experience "pain" or anticipation of pain and punch, bite or kick out before you even touch them. Touch is important.Touching their hand,their shoulder any little gesture that help them to adjust to physical contact. Hope this helps.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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Dementia or not, assault is assault.
You used the past tense in your statement. Are you still his caregiver? If so, I'd be very cautious if you're sticking around to care for him. Make sure there are no objects within his reach that he could strike you with. Not that his fists aren't bad enough, but you don't want a lamp over your head or, God forbid, having him pull a gun from his bedside table. Be authoritative in dealing with him.
Don't go in with the sole purpose of "changing the diaper."
Sit a moment, make conversation about anything.Do a little dusting, whatever.
Remember that despite their dementia they still do suffer the embarrassment and indignity of not being able to attend to these very private moments of toileting.Many can not admit to themselves they are incontinent.
Then try something like" Let me help you change" Get the diaper ready and if he is able let him help.Take your time.Don't rush.It's a struggle for them.Talk about the weather etc.It helps distracts them.
Be sure that when you put the diaper on it's comfortable.He may be experiencing pain, pinching, chafing or other that has made the change a dreaded experience.Many patients experience "pain" or anticipation of pain and punch, bite or kick out before you even touch them. Touch is important.Touching their hand,their shoulder any little gesture that help them to adjust to physical contact.
Hope this helps.