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My MIL went into hospice when she had the original covid (May 2020). She was so sick we called in her out-of-state sons to say goodbye to her. Then, after a few weeks she recovered completely.
It would be really helpful if you could give us more information about your husband's illness/injury and if he has dementia.
Is someone his Medical Power of Attorney? Does he have a Advance Healthcare Directive (Living Will) or a POLST?
You don’t state what the issue is or why you think hospice is the best choice.
But I will share that my FIL did not want hospice . The name itself scared him . He had dementia , COPD, CHF , cachexia and was in a lot of pain from multiple spontaneous compression fractures in his neck and spine due to severe osteoporosis . He did not want to go to the hospital . He finally agreed to hospice for the pain management aspect when his pain got severe. He also had Covid at the time . The coughing was causing more back pain . Was only about 48 hours later that he died. They put Covid on his death certificate as the cause of death . However, he had been declining already , Covid just sped up the inevitable since his heart and lungs were so compromised .
YOU DON'T. It isn't your business. This is a PERSONAL decision in a way that no other is. This is a decision everyone must make for him/herself no matter how hopeless the situation is.
Never encourage another to face end of life and stop fighting for life if he/she doesn't want to. I say this as a fan of hospice and as someone who would end my life through a final exit of MAiD (medical assistance in dying) laws. I am a FAN of the grim reaper. That doesn't mean your husband is, nor should be.
My husband who has emphysema and told his illness was severe (EOL) was in Hospice care for a year and graduated out in November 2023. I was encouraged to get a podiatry opinion and treatment about a toe nail infection he had by the Hospice nurse who came once a week and doctor who saw him every three months, so Hospice care in his case was not just EOL care. He improved while in Hospice care.
My MIL threw a high stakes FIT when the Dr talked to her about Hospice. Actually, it's really Palliaitve Care--altho she does not see any drs and stopped all her medications. It's all in the verbiage used.
She used to get really mad/embarassed that the van the Hospice nurse drives has "In Home Hospice" printed in huge letters on the sides.
Well---sorry, not sorry.
And FWIW, Hospice can last for a really, really long time. we were told MIL had 2-3 weeks and we're staring down the barrel of a 2nd YEAR. (well, not until Jan., but it's not what we'd all thought.)
The only way the kids could have kept her home with the appropriate care was through Hospice. I'm not involved, so I don't know that much, but I know that w/o the meds she takes (only anti anxiety ones) she could not be cared for at home, her constant panic attacks make life miserable.
Hospice is end of life care. If a person doesn't recognize that his life is ending, and isn't willing to give up treatment hoping for a cure, then hospice is not the answer for that person. As an RN I think it is wrong to try to convince people that they are dying and need to give up hope for cute. That is up to the person involved.
Hospice is a GREAT way to get extra help. It is a great way to ensure that a person is getting all the supplies and equipment that is needed in order for the caregivers to safely care for a person. Hospice not only supports the person that has a life limiting illness but Hospice also supports the family.
His doctors can explain it to him but tell him that he can "try it out" if he does not like it you can discontinue Hospice care. Tell him to give it a month. That gives the Hospice staff, him and you a bit of time to get used to everything.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
It would be really helpful if you could give us more information about your husband's illness/injury and if he has dementia.
Is someone his Medical Power of Attorney? Does he have a Advance Healthcare Directive (Living Will) or a POLST?
But I will share that my FIL did not want hospice . The name itself scared him . He had dementia , COPD, CHF , cachexia and was in a lot of pain from multiple spontaneous compression fractures in his neck and spine due to severe osteoporosis . He did not want to go to the hospital . He finally agreed to hospice for the pain management aspect when his pain got severe. He also had Covid at the time . The coughing was causing more back pain . Was only about 48 hours later that he died. They put Covid on his death certificate as the cause of death . However, he had been declining already , Covid just sped up the inevitable since his heart and lungs were so compromised .
Never encourage another to face end of life and stop fighting for life if he/she doesn't want to. I say this as a fan of hospice and as someone who would end my life through a final exit of MAiD (medical assistance in dying) laws. I am a FAN of the grim reaper. That doesn't mean your husband is, nor should be.
lT IS YOUR HUSBAND'S decision alone.
I was encouraged to get a podiatry opinion and treatment about a toe nail infection he had by the Hospice nurse who came once a week and doctor who saw him every three months, so Hospice care in his case was not just EOL care. He improved while in Hospice care.
She used to get really mad/embarassed that the van the Hospice nurse drives has "In Home Hospice" printed in huge letters on the sides.
Well---sorry, not sorry.
And FWIW, Hospice can last for a really, really long time. we were told MIL had 2-3 weeks and we're staring down the barrel of a 2nd YEAR. (well, not until Jan., but it's not what we'd all thought.)
The only way the kids could have kept her home with the appropriate care was through Hospice. I'm not involved, so I don't know that much, but I know that w/o the meds she takes (only anti anxiety ones) she could not be cared for at home, her constant panic attacks make life miserable.
It is a great way to ensure that a person is getting all the supplies and equipment that is needed in order for the caregivers to safely care for a person.
Hospice not only supports the person that has a life limiting illness but Hospice also supports the family.
His doctors can explain it to him but tell him that he can "try it out" if he does not like it you can discontinue Hospice care. Tell him to give it a month. That gives the Hospice staff, him and you a bit of time to get used to everything.