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I find the incessant questions about, no offense, stupid things over and over, very boring and very annoying. There are still some normal or even occasionally interesting convos, but mostly just boring boring boring.

Can you have an old fashioned phone with a cord for where she will be most likely to be looking for one? Or somehow tether the phone to something so it can't get far away from where it belongs?

Re: what time is it? Can she still tell time? If so, how about a watch with big digital numbers on it and/or a simple easy to read clock in the rooms she's most likely to be in?

No ideas for the TV remote! They are a little complicated and if you hit the wrong button, it can kind of screw things up.

It's sad that it comes down to this with so many of our elders. They go down hill and can't handle or understand things we take for granted. I hope this never happens to me and I am taking good care of myself to try to do my best to not become that annoying little old lady that is boring and repetitive and immobile, etc. etc. Please, NO!
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I get tired.. LOL My mom likes to play casino games on her tablet,, and cant understand the "buy this " adds that pop up. We have told her 100x to hit the "X" to bypass them,, nope.. can't remember this. I fix this so many times I feel like I am playing the dang game.. and it tires me out. She was already up at 4 am yesterday when I came down for work.. askes about the dang game, and somehow turned the brightness down too. By the time I got her set up I had to go.. and never even had a cup of coffee.. sigh. That 45 minutes in the morning before work is the ONLY time I get that is people free all day,, and I hate when she gets up before me!
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You get used to it. I have to repeat the same thing 10 times a day in row at 10 separate times during the day every single day. Repeat that day for 10 years.
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againx100 Feb 2020
Ugh, that's maddening!
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Yeah, it can be so frustrating. I recall that with my LO, she started hiding things like the ENTIRE cable/DVR box! I looked for it for over an hour, when I finally found it in the kitchen cupboard! lol She told me that she didn't put it in there. I was sort of impressed that she had disconnected it herself! Of course, she had forgotten all about it. She would accuse me of putting grease on the kitchen counter....not true. It was a phase though. Hopefully, it will pass. But, like others have suggested, you could discuss meds with her doctor, if she seems very agitated, anxious or distressed. Meds helped my LO, who has dementia, quite a bit.

Also, I have noticed that many seniors who don't have dementia also ask a ton of questions. I have no idea why. They seem to be very curious about a million things that make no difference at all to anyone. lol I don't get it. Anyone know why this happens?
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Time to get Mom to a neurologist. There are meds that can help.
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karen70 Feb 2020
Thank you, I know there are. She is already on so many meds.. for cholesterol, pressure, type diabetes. She is very sensitive when it comes to the subject of aging. At 76 now she doesn't consider herself to be elderly! And she'll tell you, too! I want her to get screened for stuff but don't know how I would approach it with her doctor..
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Yeah.. I'm venting. Having a challenging time with my elderly mom who is semi-functional..not officially diagnosed w/ dementia or alz but the signs are there. Every day she is misplacing something..the phone is a daily issue and I am her target for questioning/blame. We have 3 cordless phones. A cordless phone can tend to fall in between a pillow cushion, under a blanket, etc.. Or she can't find a pen..where is her pen..i take ALL her pens. She has trouble using the cable remote on the daily. Either it doesn't power on..the buttons don't work and she's slamming it down on the table out of frustration. We have the same cable remote for years-it is the simple version with the big buttons. What's the weather, what time is it.. I am exploding with frustration. I wish I had an escape hatch.
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Could you be a little more specific? Are you saying that you have trouble with a family member asking a lot of questions?
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