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I’ve posted on Discussions over the last week about the effects of my recent eye surgery. I’ve had unusually vivid dreams that make it clear to me that we ‘see’ with the brain, not with the eyes. If your father’s brain is making him ‘see’ your mother on the couch etc, it will be absolutely real to him. He won’t accept logic or ‘it’s a delusion’. It’s all true, he’s seen it himself.

If your mother could accept this, it might make this situation more bearable for her – and for you.
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Twooffiveminus2 Mar 2021
Yep. He sees it in his mind and it is absolutely real to him. He’s not making it up to be an a**. He sees signs everywhere - her nightgown smells like cigarettes (no one has ever smoked in their home), someone has been naked on the guest bed. He told me he wants to help Mom with her problem. At least no violence. Mom is pretty straight laced. She’s mortified. She wants to understand what can’t be understood.
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Help to move them to the same facility...Dad in memory care & Mom in Assisted living. They can be together that way. Start helping to get house ready for sale to help pay for facility. Also see a Lawyer experienced in asset protection. Make sure their wills, or trust up to date & who has poa & health proxy.
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