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More info is needed .
Frustrated why ? Does Grandpa need a lot of hands on care ? Does Mom want grandpa to go in a facility but he refuses , or there are money problems ?
Do you live near them ? In what way is he being neglected that you see, witnessed ?
You could call APS if you have first hand examples .
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What you should do first is fill in your profile and provide some more information. I'm very impressed that you are female and have lovely long legs, but it's not really relevant to this site.
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Help her if you are that concerned
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Is your mom frustrated because no one else is stepping up to help her with her dad? And what kind of help does your grandpa need, and why?
Have you offered to help her some so she's not quite so burned out and frustrated, and if not why not?
You've not given us anything to go on so hopefully you'll be back to answer these questions so we can perhaps better help you.
And if your mom is suffering from caregiver burnout, perhaps you need to tell her that it's time to place grandpa in the appropriate facility, especially if no one else is willing to help her.
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Missy, maybe an example, to better answer your question, care giving is very hard work, and often comes with resentments.

Resentments of the time it's taking from you or resentments from your past.

Honestly I don't quite agree with you taking on the responsibility, this isn't your job, maybe it would be nice of you to help out mom a little, so she can get a break, but just spend time with him, it's not your responsibility, and technically it's not your moms responsibility either.

In my 60s it's my responsibility to find ways to make sure my family is boggled down with caregiving me.

Caregiving is no fun!
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Tend to him yourself? How old are you?
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Speak with your mother about any questions you have of her care of your grandfather.
I am sorry to tell you that in order to get any answers on this Forum you will have to tell you what you are seeing that is of concern to you. Your subjective opinion is interesting, but we cannot possibly guess what you may mean by abuse. That said, if you have solid proof of abuse I would suggest you call APS and report this so they can open a case and speak to you and your granddad about your concerns for him. Do know, when you speak with APS, you will need to be able to report what you saw, when, where and how often.
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Hi missy, do you have a question?
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