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put things from her old house in her new room. . Make her. New room
” familiar” . Glue or tape family pic on a poster and write their first names under the pic. Take a picture of her old house instead of taking her there. It may be easier than trying to take her away to her new home.,pic on a poster is better than framed pic in a small area. Names help visitors as well as your mother. If she had a bedspread or lap blanket at home, add it to her new room. I made my moms new room look like her old room
do the transition was a little easier. A simple large wall clock would be nice. As much comforting things from her old home will help her
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It is normal for people with dementia/alzheimer's to want to "go home". It is theorized that what they are really seeking is comfort. I had the same situation as you describe and I did take her past her house that she had lived at for the last 50 years before we sold and surprisingly she didn't really recognize it. I didn't tell her we were going to her house, I drove by slowly and pointed it out and said it looked like a nice house. She had no response indicating that it had been hers or that she missed it. After that, I took her to her childhood home in Detroit and when I pulled in the neighborhood, she remembered everything and even picked her house out! It gave her great joy. I agree with others about putting familiar house items around to give her the safety/comfort of "home" she is seeking.
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My husband and his uncle were taking my husband's grandfather out of assisted living for lunch. They had to drive by the grandfather's house to get to the restaurant. When he saw his house, he jumped out of the car and moved as fast as he could toward the house and then tried to force his way into the house. Thankfully the car wasn't moving very fast because it was slowing to stop at a traffic light. My husband darted after him while the uncle parked the car. It was horrible. He was determined to stay in his house and his sadness and tears were heartbreaking for all of them. His wife had recently passed away and he desperately wanted to stay in his home that they had lived in for 40 years. He was a very kind and caring man and to see him so upset and heartbroken was one of the things that can never be forgotten.

It is possible that your loved one will have no problems leaving, but be prepared if she wants to stay and is heartbroken. She has dementia and will forget it, but you won't.
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