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Before getting angry, seek to understand. What I read was that Stella said no thank you and you overrode that decision by going to the director.

Instead of litigating that battle, why not work with the facility so your dad has a job he can do and still catnap? Like finding and posting a joke or a tip or picture once or twice a week. You and your sister can print out a bunch of them and he can pick and post once or twice a week. Good for everyday, special for the holidays
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I would say something. Facilities want to encourage residents to be as fulfilled and productive as possible. It sounds like your dad needs something to do to help. If the store is not the right fit, perhaps there is something else he can do..?
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Surprised they would do such a thing.
If you only have volunteers, supervisors should be trained to be able to change the duties to keep up with the abilities of a senior not to discard them.

One hour, what he can he do: possible dust the shelves, arrange the items on the shelves, do some inventory, maybe even stock the shelves if needed.

My Dad was an owner of a small grocery store. The individuals at the day center gave him "busy" work to keep him occupied and give him a reason to get up in the morning. He loved it. He was also around your dad's age.

Maybe you could offer the problem with a solution. GOD BLESS!
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They didn't need to fire him. That was harsh, and no you're not being overly-sensitive.
It's a room in an AL facility. The residents who live there are paying thousands of dollars a month to be residents there. If a roll of toilet paper or a tube of toothpaste goes missing, I hardly think it will bankrupt the AL. It's not a real job it's an activity to give the residents something to do.
I would most definitely say something to this "Stella" person and tell her that she was pretty harsh to your father and that was totally uncalled for.
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Imho, perhaps there was more to Stella than meets the eye and yes, I know that you didn't meet this woman. While most certainly she could have handled this in a much different fashion, a lot of information about her is not known, e.g. her age, whether or not she is also a resident there, et al.
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i would call the director again and let them know that this Stella is driving away someone that actually WANTS to help. maybe she feels that she is not needed now. Is Stella the lady in the next room? I would be upset too that one person says they need help then the next one says no. Sounds like you should request a meeting with the director and Stella together to find out what is going on. I wish you luck.
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While dad was able, he volunteered to take care of the plants. IL had an area in one of the buildings for rec with pool, pool table and tons and tons of plants. He'd push the water cart which was too heavy for the ladies who actually watered the plants. He grew up on a farm and gardened at the homes I grew up in and even had some plants at the apt after they gave sold the house. He continued to do this until he started falling and it became too difficult. There was even a pic of him on the web-site with his water cart. Mom volunteered in library they had.

It sounds as if your dad is better off without this particular job and since dad told you to stay out of it, I'd stay out of it. Maybe there are other things dad is suited to volunteer for at his community.

Good luck.
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I sympathize with your anger. This sounds like it might be a one-off deal - somebody in admin had a bright idea but did not check it out with the person who runs the store. I worked as an admin assistant is a number of corporate positions and I sure ran into this kind of thing. Not malevolent, but rather incompetent. Have their been other examples of this kind of thing at the facility? If so I would talk to the admin people. Otherwise I would not worry about it, but watch out for your parents. This was a nasty thing to happen to your dad - a dedicated worker slapped in the face. But please tell him that this is not his fault or any kind of reflection on his competence. Not at all. I could keep you entertained for days relating some of my experiences dealing with the fallout from "half baked" (I'm being polite here) decisions. Like the time I got a call from a warehouse facility manager in the field: "I know you aren't in charge of this, but do you have any idea of what is going on? We all got letters from corporate offices wishing us well on our future endeavors - but we all got great work reviews? I told him to fax me a copy. He did. I went down to personnel and gave them the message and the letter copy. Explained that Microsoft mail merge was very useful BUT you had to be sure you were pulling from the correct files. I suggested they always proofread the finished letters and addressees before actually sending. Turned out they had mixed up a promotion list with a list of personnel who were being laid off. There was an old saying in the Prussian military: If you have an intelligent man, but lazy, make him a general; If you have an intelligent man, but energetic, make him staff support; if you have a stupid man, but lazy, keep him around - sooner or later you will find a use for him; if you have a stupid man, but energetic - GET RID OF HIM AT ONCE.
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I would bet he is not the only one who has been "fired." It sounds like the staff person in charge of this group is the one who needs to be looked at. This is the resident's store, and the residents should be in charge!!

Maybe this is why they are having a hard time finding volunteers to work??
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No you are not being too sensitive, someone is being a jobsworth. However they may be being leant on themselves to run the shop in certain way or some other aspect of this part of their job. I certainly think you should talk to the facility management, but there may be an advantage to having the member of staff concerned present to find out if there is more of an issue than someone just being over zealous in doing their job. Perhaps it is them that has the problem and management need to sort that out, as well as allowing residents to feel involved and useful.
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Stella is possibly the facility's Activities Director or Resident Services Coordinator, a part of the management team. She'd likely be the person purchasing all the sundries sold at the store. She's responsible for turning in those purchase receipts for stock as well as receipts for each resident purchase so the residents can be billed each month for their purchases (I don't know if any community that handles cash in their resident store.) Even tho items are usually less than a dollar and most communities sell products at cost with no profit motive, Stella is responsible for the store as part of the facility's budget.

She hopefully met with your dad after he moved in, to see what activities he was interested in and what his health and physical limitations might be. I think it's likely the volunteer position running the store is physically not a good fit for your dad. Receipts likely need to be handwritten and note each purchase, resident name, room #, and dollar total. If your dad's vision is compromised this task might not be possible. If he's a catnapper and no one comes in to shop during his assigned time, he might doze off...then Ed from room 201 tippy-toes in and raids the candy shelf!

As others have suggested, hopefully there is another area that your dad your offer his time and energy? I sure feel for you and your concerns and hope your dad settles in and there is a way for him to contribute!
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You are not being oversensitive. Your comments are beautifully-written, especially this part: " I watch him lay out his clothes one day a week for his “ job day “ (1 hour) brought home their price list so he could enlarge it so he could see it . Now at 92 he has been “fired” for the first time in his life after working since he was 12 yo.."
I think you ought to pen a kind letter to the Director so that he/she can remind the staff of why they are there in the first place. Maybe you can save another resident from this kind of treatment.
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