I have come to the end of my rope and my mother refuses my help (I am living with her). She is not in bad enough health to go to a home but is short about $1000 a month for assisted living. I am so stuck. She has been throwing fits for days and I'm afraid if I go to work she will surely go down hill.
Vikki(Kiwanis!), MM, Bookluver, kudos to you all!
Take care of yourself,
Carol
So I sent back and got her. Her health is worse than ever. I worked . Run hone at lunch to help her then back to work. But she still got bedsores. She became so obstinate.. and they got worse. So in last in the last 5 months she's had 2 surgeries to remove the infection. While I thought that would be helpful. It's worse. She's now in nursing home, but medicare will not pay for longer term care. She doesn't qualify for medicade. I have just found out that she does qualify for an aide. ..finallty. as she has a colostomy bsg, feeding tube....and these open wounds that in reality ....will not heal. I thought surgery would fix it all.
Plus nursing home now says she owes a copay of 160 a day that insurance doesn't pay and it's thousands of dollars.
It's all I can do to hold it together. I'm at threads right now. In the last 3years...I've had these last 3 months where I actuality could sleep uninterrupted. But that's about to end as I have to take her from there, cuz we can't afford it. I've been told that widow of a veteran there's help... but I can find no information to validate that. Any help would be great as my father was a veteran.
Struggling.
Thx.
It sounds as though she was in rehab at a nursing home and she's used up the 20 days that Medicare will pay for at 100%. From day 21 to 100, there is a copay ( if the patient is making progress).
Have you applied to the VA for Aid and Attendence?