She has been going downhill more quickly during the past 3 months. She has been pocketing her food and chewing less and less. We recently found out that we may soon need to make the decision to have a feeding tube put in. They do not deal with feeding tubes in her present facility. We realize that moving her to a different facility at this point will be extremely difficult for her, not to mention dealing with the feeding tube. She is not able to make new friends at this point, and we are concerned with a move. But of course, she needs to be nourished somehow. I am so unsure on what decision we should make. She has no quality-of-life right now, but she is still very aware of people around her. We may have a few months left before making this decision, but I can’t get it off my mind. Any thoughts?
NO PLEASE NO, LET ME GO QUIETLY INTO THE NIGHT
AND DO NOT PROLONG MY AGONY ANY LONGER,
WE (Mothers Generation) MUST GO TO MAKE WAY FOR THE YOUNG BECAUSE THE YOUTH MUST HAVE THEIR FLING, WE HAVE HAD OUR TIME AND NOW THE TIME IS THEIRS TO LIVE AND LOVE AND TOIL AS WE HAVE DONE.
I remember looking at Mother as I uttered wow, and She replied "I AM NOT GOING TO LIVE FOREVER.
Feeding tubes cause pain, swelling, etc. When the body and mind are shooting down and ready to go, it is time to help your loved one pass. Tell them you love them, and that it is okay to let go. I told my mom she would be greeted on the other side. That she was a good person and always did her best. That she would always be with me in my heart.
Talk to your loved one, play music, sing, tell sweet stories, hold hands, ... Just love them as they pass from this life.
you don’t have 4 months to make the decision whether to put a feeding tube into your mom or not! She will most likely die of malnutrition by then! I believe inserting a feeding tube is what I would do. She may not get better mentally but she will not starve to death because of your decision to not put the tube! Besides, only God will call her when it’s her time. In the meantime you help your mom livevas long as possible without making suffer! I’m going through the same thing!
life because she can’t eat a steak. She gets yogurt and fruit shakes, ice cream and soup but it’s not enough nutrition like the liquid hope- an organic tube feed formula. She’s had this tube since 2015 and still is healing. She made the choice to do whatever measures necessary to save her and god blesses her every day. Get the tube and get good food for her tube feed. It heals in a month. Too bad there are only people who have negative thing to say about this.
NO NO LEAVE ME GO QUIETLY INTO THE NIGHT,
WHY PROLONG MY LIFE BEYOND ITS END,
WE MUST GO TO MAKE WAY FOR THE YOUNG,
BECAUSE THE YOUTH MUST HAVE THEIR FLING,
WE HAVE HAD OUR TIME, AND NOW THAT TIME IS THEIRS TO LIVE AND LOVE AND TOIL,
AS WE HAVE DONE.
Mother died as She had Lived with a beautiful smile on Her face.
Mom lived through very hard times and always loved to recall stories of Her Youth and how She loved dancing. Yes
She was a great Character, and at the ripe old age of 87 years Mother was called to God. While I do miss my best Friend, I thank Our Blessed Lady every day for all the wonderful years We had together. Rest in peace.