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Goodness!! Does nobody understand the meaning of private anymore? I think if the parent didn’t have to have the child to help then they probably wouldn’t have told them either

i can guarantee you that if I was dying I would not tell anyone until I absolutely had to.

However ask yourself for whose benefit do you feel the need to break this agreement and why. If you are truly worried about family finding out after the fact then you should speak with your parent about releasing you from this obligation. Perhaps you may find that your parent will seek help through a third party only
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Are you POA? If so, it is actually your responsibility to keep health matters private, especially if parent is competent, which sounds like this is the case. If not competent you are to act as you know parent would.

This is a burden to carry, no doubt, I am sorry you are in this position.

When making that call about passing, do not offer that he has been quite sick and wanted it kept private. If they ask just answer the short answer that he wanted it private that he was sick.

There may not even be any anger or hurt, but be ready to let them vent and walk away.
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Tho it seems like a bad burden to carry there may be more to your LO thinking. Why would they want children who don't have time to visit (or call except for holidays) to know what's going on and show up because they're not going to be here long. Kind of like the old saying why bring me flowers when I'm dead, why didn't you bring them when I was living and could enjoy them. Ask your parent to write your siblings a letter about WHY they didn't want them notified. Or take a video of LO, save it and text to your siblings at the appropriate time. The reasons may astound you and make sense when you become aware of them. We don't know all that has transpired between them nor all of their history. Explain to LO you will not forward message until their passing so they could even start out if you are viewing this.....explaining that you were ordered NOT to tell them.
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