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She's afraid to leave her house but says she is very lonesome. She eats hardly at all. Doesn't shower. Won't go to the doctor. She refuses to take any medication. How can I convince my aunt to do any of these things?
You cannot "convince" someone with dementia of anything because the disease robs them of their ability to use logic and reason and have short-term memory. I have learned a lot from Teepa Snow videos on YouTube, she's a dementia expert and gives great advice to caregivers.
If your Aunt is living alone, and she has no PoA or made no plans or provisions for her care in these circumstances, then you must contact APS for her county to report her as a vulnerable adult. The county will eventually acquire guardianship of her (timeline for this varies by state and county). They will place her in a facility where she will be protected, and receive care and any medical attention she needs.
In the interim, you may be willing to step in to help her as social services works her case.
Things to remember when interacting with people who have dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue 2) Divert, do not attempt to reason 3) Distract, do not shame 4) Reassure, do not lecture 5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?” 6) Repeat, do not say “I told you” 7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t” 8) Ask, do not demand 9) Encourage, do not condescend 10) Reinforce, never force
The overall goals should be to:
1) keep them as calm and peaceful as possible (because they are less and less able to bring themselves to this mental state on their own)
2) keep them physically protected in their environment and from predatory people
3) keep them nourished with healthy foods that they will accept without fighting or forcing
4) keep them in as good a health condition as is possible, that their financial resources will allow and within their desires as expressed in a Living Will (aka Advance Healthcare Directive if they have created one)
5) keep them pain-free as possible and within their desires as expressed in a Living Will (aka Advance Healthcare Directive if they have created one)
If you are waiting for a "blank slate" it most likely will not happen. She needs help with the ADL's or Activities of Daily Living. She may be afraid to shower or she may not remember all the steps that need to be done to take a shower. Many times medications can be crushed and stirred into foods like pudding, ice cream, cereals like oatmeal, cream of rice or cream of wheat. Are there things she likes to do? Take her for a walk around the block. Take her to the Senior Center and see if she would get involved with games. Look for an Adult Day Care program in the area. They typically will pick up and drop off and provide a breakfast, lunch, snack and activities. She gets to socialize with people. There are medications that can be given for the anxiety that she may be experiencing.
You do not give any information in your profile about your aunt If you are asking how long a person can survive after the diagnosis my Husband died about 12 years after his dementia diagnosis. (Diagnosed with Alzheimer's but I think he also had Vascular dementia.) But every one is different and the type of dementia can make a difference.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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Why do you ask? Do you think she may forget to be paranoid?
If your Aunt is living alone, and she has no PoA or made no plans or provisions for her care in these circumstances, then you must contact APS for her county to report her as a vulnerable adult. The county will eventually acquire guardianship of her (timeline for this varies by state and county). They will place her in a facility where she will be protected, and receive care and any medical attention she needs.
In the interim, you may be willing to step in to help her as social services works her case.
Things to remember when interacting with people who have dementia:
1) Agree, do not argue
2) Divert, do not attempt to reason
3) Distract, do not shame
4) Reassure, do not lecture
5) Reminisce, do not ask “Do you remember…?”
6) Repeat, do not say “I told you”
7) Do what they can do, don’t say “you can’t”
8) Ask, do not demand
9) Encourage, do not condescend
10) Reinforce, never force
The overall goals should be to:
1) keep them as calm and peaceful as possible (because they are less and less able to bring themselves to this mental state on their own)
2) keep them physically protected in their environment and from predatory people
3) keep them nourished with healthy foods that they will accept without fighting or forcing
4) keep them in as good a health condition as is possible, that their financial resources will allow and within their desires as expressed in a Living Will (aka Advance Healthcare Directive if they have created one)
5) keep them pain-free as possible and within their desires as expressed in a Living Will (aka Advance Healthcare Directive if they have created one)
She needs help with the ADL's or Activities of Daily Living.
She may be afraid to shower or she may not remember all the steps that need to be done to take a shower.
Many times medications can be crushed and stirred into foods like pudding, ice cream, cereals like oatmeal, cream of rice or cream of wheat.
Are there things she likes to do?
Take her for a walk around the block.
Take her to the Senior Center and see if she would get involved with games.
Look for an Adult Day Care program in the area. They typically will pick up and drop off and provide a breakfast, lunch, snack and activities. She gets to socialize with people.
There are medications that can be given for the anxiety that she may be experiencing.
You do not give any information in your profile about your aunt
If you are asking how long a person can survive after the diagnosis my Husband died about 12 years after his dementia diagnosis. (Diagnosed with Alzheimer's but I think he also had Vascular dementia.) But every one is different and the type of dementia can make a difference.