I cook 3 meals a day. Give his showers. Wash clothes. Pay all his Bill's. Take him to Dr.'s. I do everything for him.
His dementia is getting worse. He gets around with his Walker. He uses the bathroom fine. No pull ups. Eats very good
Sleeps a little more. My sister has a problem with the amount of money I receive. He saw a lawyer and he drew up a contract and specified the amount. She's accusing me that with his dementia I set the amount.
Contract was drawn up almost 2 years ago. What do I do? She says $300.00 a month is plenty and I'm taking his money. She does not help me with any of his care and never offers.
You could always go get a new contract drawn up for the current care needs, inflation and added hours. That would increase your monthly pay.
Be sure and thank your sister for pointing out that your contract needed to be updated to reflect the current situation.
Oh yes, make sure that you have a roommate agreement with dad and that he is paying his way on top of paying for the care he receives.
Based on what you have said about your sister, I personally don't think that she would actually care for dad. She would happily take the money and let him go without care. I could be wrong, but I don't think so.
"Be sure and thank your sister for pointing out that your contract needed to be updated to reflect the current situation."
It's great that he had a formal contract drawn up by a lawyer. But it does need to reflect reality and you need to be paid fairly (more!) and be paid rent. I think you should maintain communication with your sister and by all means share with her the data you gather about costs of facilities and private caregivers. Transparency is important, even with people who are unreasonable. But if she continues to squawk, just ignore her. This is an agreement between you and your dad.
Would SHE bill willing to have him live in HER home for not even $3/day, which is what she thinks you should get?
What a piece of work!
What a sweet sister you are. Not collecting or being paid a decent wage all so siblings receive a larger inheritance.
Check into the cost of memory care, too while you are at it. Sis would never take on this responsibility.
Is this really just full time, 40 hours, of care each week? I would think it is actually 166 hours.
You deserve to be paid for your care and you are completely protected since an attorney drew up the contract.
It is easier to find fault than offer a helping hand.
I'm with Polar. You should be paid far more.
Your dad is paying you TOO LITTLE. $1,000/month, that's $12,000/52 weeks, which translates to $231/week, which translates to $33/day.
How many hours a day do you spend helping dad including being ON-CALL meaning to passively watch him to make sure he's ok? Security guards do nothing but walking or standing around and they get paid. You do the same when you're sitting and keeping an eye on dad. Since you're getting $33/day, you should work NO MORE than 3 hours.
Your sister wants to pay you slavery wage. That's shameful. Tell her to go check out the rates from a few agencies. They charge at least $25/hours with a minimum of 4 hours/day.
Your profile says your dad is living in your home. He should also pay you rent, and part of utility expenses. Tell your idiotic sister to either shut up or she can take over his care by bringing him to her place for her to take care of him.