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From personal experience, it could be that the providers were delayed in submitting bills to the insurance company. I found out that providers have up to 2 years to submit for reimbursement. Upsetting and annoying, I know! Unfortunately as painful as it is, what you are already doing is the best way to go.
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I am really sorry for your great loss Cetude. Most of Us here on this great site know the pain of loss. Do not worry as your Name is not on the bill. Return the bill by post to the Hospital and inform them that your Mom died a month ago, RIP. The debt will be written off.
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Simply write "Deceased, Return To Sender" on the face of the unopened envelope and mail it back. That's the advice I was given when my mom passed away. They sent a few more to me, but after a few times the letters stkopped.
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TekkieChikk Feb 2020
Did the same when my mom died, too. As you say, the bills stopped. No need to send death certs.

The only creditor I did contact was Xfinity (Comcast). Mom had the account for internet in her name only. I had them close the account properly, including emailing a death cert, in case my dad ever wanted to transfer his phone and TV to Xfinity since utilities like these are often linked to a physical address and not always just the name on the account. The woman I spoke to in billing was very nice and sent a personal note of condolence with the email confirming the account had been closed.
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My mother died three months ago. We just received about the 40th bill from the hospital she was taken to after a fall one year ago. Her insurance paid them months ago. They're just trying to see if they can get more from us. Call them. Tell them nothing's coming and stop trying.
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Im very sorry about your mom
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It is hard I lost my Momma just two weeks ago and they keep coming
I am holding on to my faith sometimes I feel I can not breath
Hope you are doing better need to talk I am here.
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anonymous981049 Feb 2020
Sorry for your loss.. I feel the same way I lost my dad in October
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this was said before. But bears repeating. If you receive a bill for medical services more than one year past the date of service, you don’t have to pay it. Not just for someone who has died, for anyone. They have a year to present the bill.
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disgustedtoo Feb 2020
Source for this?
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Billing really doesn't care who lives or who dies. You would be shocked at the number of people who DO pay the bill without questioning it. Working in medicine, I have seen bills go from $70500 to $0 because they were wrong and patients or their loved ones took the time to question them. I have a friend who works as the financial manager at a hospital. She writes off over $250,000 in bills a week. It's just part of the healthcare smoke and mirrors game they play...
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disgustedtoo Feb 2020
Even without death involved it can get dicey. Mom's Medicare and EXCELLENT Federal BCBS generally pays everything. I was a bit surprised to get a bill from the local hospital (it was less than $30, but... if they can get every person to think like this, they could get a lot of bills paid that shouldn't be paid!) I paid it from mom's account, but then went to check the paperwork (comes later than the bill in this case.) Turns out it says mom owes ZERO. What was really nice is the person I contacted at BCBS about this confirmed it AND did the leg work for me! The charge was reversed and funds put back into mom's account!

So, check your own insurance statements. IF the place you go accepts Medicare and/or your insurance plans, they accept the "discounted" payments they get. Know your copays and out of pocket expenses.

Some bills can be sneaky - if you get blood drawn, or other similar tests and the place taking the sample is in the plan, they sometimes send to labs that are NOT in your plan. They shouldn't do this, but it may be the only lab they use. Still, they should at least confirm. It would be best to ask, but you probably won't get an answer (nurse at work had this happen to her - it's a covered test, but was refused because it wasn't in her "network".)
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I had that happened when my husband died. Well, x-husband. He died 5 1/2 months after our divorce. Neither of us knew he had lung cancer until he ended up in the hospital shortly after the divorce. We still liked each other, just couldn't stand living together. I started to get his hospital bills. I called and turns out he had put me down as his wife. He was pretty out of it when admitted so that's understandable. I just explained we were divorced when he died and from then on just sent the bills back with deceased written on the envelope. Didn't even bother to open them. Not my bill, not my problem.
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If these are legitimate charges, why weren't they billed at the time of the service? I would simply send a copy of the death certificate attached to the bill. No explanation of who the sender is and why he/she can't pay the bill. Let these billers do any legwork they feel they must. I.e. that the decedent had assets that might have been available from which to make payment, what happened to those assets, etc. Normally the estate executor has to publish a death notice inviting anyone who might be owed moneys to come forward, and if they didn't, they'd be out of luck after a certain length of time. Do not let these vultures intimidate you.
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whaleyf Feb 2020
copies of the death certificate cost money. just send bill back with deceased written on it.
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After my husband died I got bills, calls, etc. I just answered “I would like to talk to him too. Please let me know when you find him”.
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disgustedtoo Feb 2020
Sad that you lost your husband, but your comment brought an out loud chuckle from me just now!!! What would be even better is if we could see the person at the other end and their reaction....
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Same thing here. They would lose the death certificate even after I sent it, and phoning them got nowhere. Eventually they left me alone, but not until after the threatening letters came. 

People in the hospital administration racket have nothing to do with patient care and really should be working in high-profit corporations or that other racket making a killing these days, the higher education industry.
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cetude Feb 2020
Not only that hospitals are incredibly DANGEROUS places. OF all the years I cared for mom, I spent times of time fighting doctors and nurses as they were all determined to kill my mother and let her die. "DNR" and "hospice" they all automatically assume do nothing and let them die. Caring for her was a FIGHT not only to keep her comfortable, alive and active, but also from the abuse of the medical "system" as they were determined to let my mom die of dehydration which would have taken two weeks. The feeding tube was the best decision I made -- granted it was a last resort, but it kept mom comfortable and all her needs met until the Lord took her. I just made certain I had no part of her death. Consequently I can rest in absolute peace and cannot reproach myself I did the best care for mom nobody else would have done as much as I did for her. The feeding tube took care, daily dressing changes, and I kept it well flushed--and I never had a problem with it.
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I'm sorry that you lost your mother. Billing practices leave a lot to be desired. If these are charges for services rendered, then they need to be paid, yes?
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thepianist Feb 2020
If they are legit they should have been billed a year ago.
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((((((cetude)))))) sorry you are hurting. Looking after business after a LO passes is difficult. I did not have a good relationship with my mother so did a lot of grieving over my lifetime. There wasn't much left when she passed yet I have found the business after to be very difficult to cope with. I can't imagine how bad it must be when you are grieving normally. Take care of yourself, The triggers will slow down and gradually disappear. I did this for my mil a few years ago. She had no estate so I just sent out death certificates.
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MelissaPA2AZ Feb 2020
Thank you for posting this Golden! I’ve been surprised at how difficult I’m finding the business end of everything. Dad passed in November and I’m still not done. Mostly because I find it so difficult to muster the energy to tackle things. I’m on the other side of the country and because Sis has to do the majority of visiting (mom is still alive and at the facility with AD) I take care of all the business. I feel guilty because it seems like I have what should be the easy end of things. Your words really helped “normalize” what I’ve been feeling! Thank you so much. And bless you.
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Rocket, I had Moms mail coming to me too. Thought it would help stop junk mail she got. Nope, somehow they were able to get the address. Complained to the Post Office and they told me its the Utility Companies. They make their addresses public somehow.

To stop junk mail: If they send a self addressed envelope put everything sent into it with the persons address on top. Circle address and write "take me off ur mailing list, deceased". If first class mail, just "return to sender, addressee deceased" If no envelope and no first class, then go online and contact by email. I cut my Moms junk mail really down. I find that subscribing to magazines will start a barrage of junk mail. I called a Charity one time and was told they didn't have to remove my name because they were a Charity. Not true.
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jacobsonbob Feb 2020
I knew someone who (years ago) would stuff the return envelope with sand to make it heavy, and then mailed it back. (After the ricin and anthrax scares, one probably could not get away with this.)
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I have no intention (hopefully) of ever officially having the FPOA.  I plan to let utilities know of her death when the time comes, to include any medical entities with a death certificate.  But beyond that - paying them anything is not an option.   They'll have to eat it.    (live in Calif).  Anyone have thoughts that might make me think otherwise?
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thepianist Feb 2020
PoA has no liability to pay the Principle's debts, and after death has no more authority for anything.
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My mother died a little over a year ago; I understand; same thing was happening to me. Write "DECEASED RETURN TO SENDER" on the envelope and stick it back in the mailbox. I made sure all my Mom's legitimate bills were paid of course, but everyone else finally got the hint.
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Welcome to America. We occasionally get bills for just regular doctor's visits from over a year ago. This happens even though we explicitly ask if there's a copay at each visit and are told there isn't.
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guiltandanger Feb 2020
I received a bill for my "co-pay" for a scan done at a well known cancer center a year and a half after the date of service. I questioned this and they told me the delay was because they appealed the insurance company's denial and it took that long to get it resolved. This is very suspicious to me. I'm still in recovery and needing PET scans every six months, so I'm afraid not to pay this bill. Still, I now have to try to get answers from my insurance company before I pay this bill. It's very stressful. My mother died three weeks ago. I'm receiving a bill for a pneumonia vaccination she had two years ago even though she had a very expensive medicare supplement policy. Well, she had no estate from which to collect the "debt" , so now I will send the next bill back with a photocopy of her death certificate. After that, it goes in the trash bin.
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I agree with Labs. Probate cannot be closed for a certain amount of time. In my state its 8 or 9 months. This gives creditors time to send out bills. Once Probate is closed, sorry, can't get you money.

Me, before Mom went on Medicaid I called all the doctors asking for bills I had not received. I had gotten Medicare and suppliment statements but no bills. I found that because Mom was in a home (first 2 months private pay) the balances owed were written off. Only one agreed I owed something but the acct was on hold. Turned out the claim was resubmitted and found it was covered. Ended up owing less. Billed me and I paid it. Mom died with no debt.
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Ugh so sorry for these constant reminders. I changed Moms address to mine so we are still getting solicitations from Humane Association, shelters, etc and all the other places she loved and contributed to. I growl every time I see one. And soon her last income tax filing. I do love to think about her and bring her memory up, but I want it to be on my (or her) timing. Not Geicos.
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cetude Feb 2020
I just bought a tubotax and I plan to do it next week. ALthough I notified the bank of her death, our shared account prevented a lot of headaches but even now I cannot close her account due to ongoing financial issues -- such as a her return, and I'm still trying to get Frontier to issue a refund because I closed her landline and they still owe $45. I cannot imagine the horror if I did not do estate planning five years ago because probate can take up to two years. Fortunately NOTHING went to probate due to preparation; still, even with all this preparation, it never ceases to amaze me how painful the paperwork is even after she died.
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I’m so sorry. I can relate to this. My MIL passed in June 2018. My husband is her successor trustee so he is handling the trust/estate and we still continue to receive Medicare explanation of benefits statements. We also received a bill in November 2018 for blood work done in June 2017! Adding insult to injury, at least once a month we receive life insurance advertisements addressed to her!
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I was my mother's executor to her estate after she past. I enlisted an attorney to help me with the estate process. Lawyer told me any remaining bills one year after my moms death does not have to be paid, except any tax issues. In other words creditors have one year to submit any out outstanding debts after the death of an individual in the state of massachusetts. I am sure there are similar laws like that in other states.
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I only recently was able to finalize mom's estate, she died back in Oct 2018. Now I am just left with the task of sorting and shredding old documents that I had been keeping just in case, everything I discard makes me feel like I'm slowly erasing all trace of her.
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bcasteel Feb 2020
Mom in law passed away in Dec 2018. She had been in a nursing home since 2009. Like you, we kept everything that she had. I have been going through papers, and kept all of the tax papers, and just the important stuff. It's hard letting go of some things but it's necessary.
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I'm so sorry for your anguish and frustration! My cousin told me she got a bill from Medicare for a colonoscopy 2 years after it was performed. The reimbursement chain is one of the most broken parts of our healthcare system. Again, so sorry for your emotional pain this causes you xxoo
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JoAnn29 Feb 2020
Medicare does not bill. They send out statements showing what they have paid. Once Medicare pays the suppliment pays their portion. Then the doctor bills the patient the remainder.
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