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I moved home from California in 2014 because I knew she had 3 strokes and wasn't getting any younger. Soon after I moved home, she stopped caring for herself, her home and anything. Her husband was doing everything and trying to to take care of her and he wasn't in the greatest health either. She ended up going to assisted living but had to be moved because she was smoking in the bathroom and destroying their decorations. She stopped walking in 2018 so now she's completely wheelchair bound. I came in one day and there was a woman who was 103 pushing my 70 year old mother in a wheelchair....because she just gave up. My boyfriend and I moved her because she got kicked out because of her behavior. I also had to get her her own bank account because her husband was spending her money on his scummy kids...(he had no money because he worked under the table jobs and had no soc security) and he wasn't coming to see her and left me to deal with everything. I have been her advocate since moving back here. My brother is in prison and never had much to do with her. My father was eaten by his pigs in 2012 and we were estranged and I had to deal with his estate as well because my brother was too whacked out on drugs at the time and Mom had no legal right nor could she mentally handle it. I don't really have anyone to talk to. I'm a disabled veteran....I sometimes wonder if I would've been better off if I would've never come home. I'm the one that does everything for my Mom and she forgot my birthday this year but remembers my dirtbag brother's birthday who's done nothing for her. She never says thank you, she never calls unless she wants something and now she just has the caregivers call me. I feel old beyond my years, underappreciated, bored with life and just empty inside. Does anyone else feel this way or am I just being a drama queen?

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I'm so sorry about your dad, what a traumatic thing to have happen.

Thank you for your service to our country as a veteran.

I think it's time for you to take care of YOURSELF now. Mom has caregivers. You've done too much for others for too long now. Why not think about moving back to CA and getting your life Back? You deserve it.

Wishing you the very best of luck with the rest of your life.
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Pigs are disgusting and I warned him and he laughed at me. Guess I got the last laugh.
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I don't know why I do it. My life as a child was dysfunctional and now that I'm back here, I realize I should have never come back to where there's so many bad memories.
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Oh, those PIGS! You know, there are so many who say they are just the most wonderful animals, and make the best pets, and that we shouldn't eat them because they are so very intelligent and sentient. I grew up on an Illinois farm in the winters, so I am not one of them. I WILL say, after your story, that eating a pig? Well, you never know WHAT you are getting. Or whom?

I am uncertain as to whether or not you are, as you call it, a "drama Queen".
But I will agree you have led a somewhat dramatic life with your parents.
And have some interesting stories to tell.

I wouldn't have chosen this life for myself, but we are all different.
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