She absolutely refuses to see a doctor, even a home visit doctor. At times she is so out of it too. Because if her stubborness, I started her on Tumeric, Milk thistle and other vitamins. She even stopped smoking oddly enough. The herbal protocol seemed to help a bit as her stools and urine actually returned to normal although the jaundice is still there. But now the last few days she barely eats, refuses the vitamins claiming she has a difficult time swallowing and keeps saying that everything just “lays on her stomach” I cook, clean, take care of the animals, quit my job, about to lose my car, go in massive credit card debt and I’m ready for a nervous breakdown. On top of all this, I’m fairly newly married and my husband is getting zero attention. I have literally no family but for a few relatives in Florida and Im in NY. I’ve never been so scared. Her good spirits are there and she talks about doing a lot of things “as soon as she gets better” but how is she gonna get better if she’s not proactively doing anything to try. I love my mom so much and this is killing me.
❤️peace ❤️strength ❤️courage❤️
The new hits you like a knife to the heart, but do know that you are doing everything you can to make her end of life care and passing as comfortable and gentle as possible.
We found Hospice to be a Godsend, and the Caregivers were incredible!
It's time now for you to let them do the hard work of taking care of her, and you can step back into the role of Loving Daughter. Visit often, bring in treats that are allowed, and just Love on her. I know this is a sad sad time, but you can do this, but make sure that you get plenty of rest too, as it's been an exhausting few weeks, while you tried to honor her wishes, but it would have been near impossible for you to have done it on your own, without a great deal of help. It would probably be a good time to see your own Dr, for support and possibly a Rx for anxiety.
Your Mom is in good hands now, so try to find support from friends and family, you don't need to go through this alone. Your AC friends are right here to support you through this journey! I am so sorry about all this!
I also lost my own Mom to Cancer, and the news is so shocking and painful. You take care, and please come back and let us know how you and your Mom are doing! Again, so sorry Sweetie! Cancer Sucks!
Prayers for you.
So sorry for the brutal dx....but in the end, when it's all over, you will be grateful your mom had a peaceful passing. Hospice will guide you through this.
You would have been even more devastated if she had suddenly died at home and would have forever blamed yourself for not getting her help sooner.
You did all the right things. When she began to show the symptoms it was long past time when anything could have been done to save her. I imagine there were lots of things in the past few weeks she had been feeling but did not want to worry you.
This is going to be hard it always is but be comforted that she is pain free and getting the best possible care right now. As others have said take care of yourself and just be there for her. It is not unusual for a loved one to wait till they are alone before they pass so if that happens don't feel guilty about that Mom wanted it that way. Many hugs
Mom is right now. Glad you have the help from hospice.
Please know how much we care for you and your
Mom. Please stay with us, posting as time allows.
When we share we all gain invaluable knowledge.
Blessings to you and yours. Hugs!
I am sad to announce that my mom passed away yesterday morning peacefully at hospice.
I am in extreme pain, shock and grief. Fortunately I have my animals and husband to help me.
Prayers and love to you all 💕
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for coming back here to update us.
Your mom is at peace and without pain. Take comfort in that.
((Hugs))
Liz
((((Big hugs)))) in this real difficult time.
Losing a parent is the most difficult thing we ever go through, so I am sending you my Love and Prayers, as you get through this emotional time.
It does get better, especially knowing that you did everything possible to give her a peaceful passing, and once the funereal and burial arrangements are completed, give yourself a couple of days to really rest up, remember that you don't need to hurry through this process, be kind to yourself now. I hope that Hospice was good for you both.
I will keep you in my prayer's, now and in the future, as this is life altering, and only time will make things better moving forward in your life. I'm glad you have your husband there for support. You take care, and remember that you can continue to come here for grief support!! Love, Stace
So sorry for your loss. Hope you are able to get some rest in the days ahead
God bless
during the difficult time ahe ad. Don't forget about us.
She is at peace now, no more suffering or pain.
I hope that you know you were a wonderful daughter & did the best you could. Knowing this will help to comfort you as you cope with your loss.