My husband and I are both disabled and are not able to care for her. She falls and her behavior is erratic and she wanders. Should I call an ambulance (I believe she has a urinary tract infection) and have her go to hospital to get her placed as we have been unable to find a facility that has an available bed. There are no other family members that can help. We don't know what to do. Since she was evicted my husband and I have basically been homeless with her as we cannot have her in our home. On several occasions she has been physically combative. Help I need advice. Today she used a bag of potato chips to wipe herself after urinating. She thinks her son is her husband. She cannot have a normal speaking conversation anymore. She needs 24/7 care and we can't provide that. If she is discharged from er will I get in trouble if we say we aren't able to care for her and say it's a unsafe discharge?
If your grandmother is assessed competent then she will be discharged if she requests it, but that sounds unlikely.
Tell them that if she is returned home you will refuse her. They may tell you that you cannot serve as her POA. If that is the case tell them you would like the State to become her guardian. That is the most certain way to her safe placement.
I am sorry you are faced with this, and I am sorry your MIL is. If this is symptoms of a UTI it will have come on suddenly, but it sounds more to me that you are looking at a dementia you are no longer able to care for. I wish all of you luck and hope MIL gets good placement after diagnosis and treatment.