My Mom does not have a Living Will. She has a POA,-my brother- an Advance Medical Directive, a DNR order, and a Will. My name and my brother. Mom is in the hospital and rehab w/ a broken hip. She will hopefully go back to assisted Living once she can walk again. She is 88. I am trying to figure out her finances before she dies and was told that if my name was on her checking account her money would be safe from the courts and we could proceed with her wishes outlined in her Last Will & Testament. I want to make sure I am doing the right things to keep her estate out of the hands of lawyers and courts.
Heartbroken3, there is not telling what a POA might do or persuade their person to do. If they are really failing as POA going to court to have them removed as POA could make sense, especially if it truly means that mom is getting truly bad care. OTOH, it may be the fact that they think you would do that IF you got disinherited might give them pause and not rocking the boat would be better.
I had to take over the billing and had to have all the bills sent to my house, as Dad would think a bill was junk mail.... oh my gosh, all the Pass Due bills that I had found in the recycling bin :P
If you live with lets say, a brother or sister and not married, and file taxes separate and one dies, does the other get billed for their time with Medi-Cal?
It doesn't seem fair for a sibling do have to pay up? Would like to know? Live in the same house, but do pretty much everything separate , accept on a couple accounts?
But if the house is in both names, there could be a lien against the half owned by the sibling.
JTWROS will be changed to survivor's name when the death certificate is presented at the bank. BUT the nursing home can sue for the bill in states that have "filial responsibility" laws.
Seriously - this stuff is complicated and varies a bit state to state - so one totally legit expense that you can and should pay for from mom's money is for an elder law consultation. I found one who clearly knew the ins and outs of my state's Medicaid via info on his website, and a $300.00 initial consultation with him was a huge help.