I’m a caregiver to my mom who has mid-stage dementia. My mom’s dementia is rough and it makes her shout uncontrollably at night, especially when I need to clean her when she wets herself. She would shout for few minutes while I put her back to bed around 12:30 am. Then, she will stop and fall asleep. I’ve tried every trick in the book and nothing calms her. My issue is our new next door neighbor would knock on the wall at night in order for my mom to shut up and that knocking sound further scares her and makes it even worse. What can I do? I don’t want to go talk to them, they don’t look friendly. Can they call the police on us? My mom is not screaming all night just shouts when I’m changing her between 12:15 to 12:40ish am. What would the police do in this instance?
I use to manage my own rental properties and also managed a commercial office building. Anything reasonable was approved and usually left for the next tenant to benefit from.
Would be cheaper (much) than MC or assisted living.
My uncle, when I was a child, had WW2 nightmares, so many must moan or scream. Are there other Depends style
you could try. Even the wetness causes itchiness or pain.
Luck to you.
OP is more emboldened now that she has a friend in the rental office who backs her and her screaming mother up, basically giving the middle finger to the neighbors.
"My mother can shout and scream all she wants in the dead of night, and you can just suck it."
Inconsiderate, rude, and selfish.
OP, may you have many years and decades of diaper changing in the dead of nights.
Bye!
p.s. I hope the neighbors will sue the owner for all the moving costs, and any differential in rental expense between the current and the new place.
I think that fair housing laws will soon see your "friend" fired and possibly sued. With you as a named defendant.
I think you should be completely ashamed of your selfishness in this matter. You definitely know how to make enemies with your entitled attitude.
Who thinks that anyone should willingly, with a smile, put up with being jarred awake by screaming for a half hour nightly?
I mean, these days San Francisco allows all this.
Can't find the response and some mentioned Lasix water pills. Is Mom on this?
I think your office friend maybe mixing up "medical" condition and the Disabilities Act. Dementia is not a disability. I have to agree that when this person rented, he should have been told about the neighbor. Since he wasn't, he does have a good cause to sue the Landlord.
I know some of us may seem a little harsh in their responses but your neighbor does not have to be sympathetic to your problem. Mom may be becoming more than u can handle and u may have to place her. Maybe reread the responses and write down the suggestions and see what ones you can use. Really, its up to u to solve this problem.
I start to suspect trolling when previous intelligent posters start screaming at each other and acting like 13 year old mean girls. It's what trolls thrive on.
It cheapens this site.