My Mom is 91 years old and a resident in a nursing home. She lives in NJ and I live in FL. I have no family in NJ who can look in on my Mom nor keep me up to date with my Mom’s care. I stay in the loop via phone calls I make to the nursing home. I stay in touch with the nurses, the social worker and the physical therapist. I FaceTime with my Mom on a weekly basis. She’s now beginning to have panic attacks because she’s bedridden and her doctor prescribed her Xanax. So now, as of today I ask the young lady who does the FaceTime calls if she thought my Mom needed anything of the clothing nature. Since I live in another state I send my Mom what ever she needs via Amazon. The young girl told me that my Mom needs clothes. She said my Mom only had 2 pair of pajamas in her closet. I asked her if maybe house keeping had my Mom’s clothing and were washing them. She said no that she had checked with them and had nothing belonging to my Mom. Mind you I have my Mom’s name written with permanent marker on all the labels of her clothing. So is it the facility is not returning her clothes? This may sound like a minor issue however being the only one seeing to my Mom’s needs outside of medical care this is an issue. So I’m sending my Mom what ever she needs and the facility is not seeing she gets these articles of clothing? Can anyone shed light on this situation for me please? I don’t want to get this young girl in trouble for telling the truth. This is a delicate situation as this young girl has been a God send and has helped me (as an employee) with certain issues I’ve had with the nursing home. My Mom’s healthcare has been very good since she’s been a resident (it will be a year next month) however I’ve had to deal with certain issues that shouldn't have been or expected from a healthcare facility. Nothing really bad I have to say but again not issues you’d have to deal with from a nursing home. I’d really appreciate any advice or help anyone can offer me.
Your mother pays a fee to the NH to have her laundry done. It is absolutely not unreasonable for her to expect to have her clothes returned to her clean, in good condition, and more or less all of them. The odd sock or undervest going missing is one thing, but (assuming she had plenty in the first place) whole empty drawers are getting ridiculous.
So, armed with your inventory, call a higher-up at the NH, explain that you want to take stock of your mother's clothes before you order her next supplies, and ask them to account for what she now has.
It is difficult to manage a nursing home's laundry - very high turnover of work, very high volumes, all kinds of infection prevention and control issues, low pay, long hours, thankless tasks - you can imagine, of course. But it's not enough to say oh well what do you expect. Ask your mother's NH to do better than that.
They will label the clothing for you before shipping. And the clothing will with stand the punishment that the laundry service does when running it through the sanitize cycle. They focus on clothing that makes dressing easier, which also may be helpful for your mother.
When my Mom went into the Nursing Home I took pictures of all her clothing. I found some of her clothes in her roommates closet. If something was missing, I showed the Laundress a picture of the clothing and it usually showed up in the next day or two.
I would talk to the laundress. Ask if they tag the clothes. Ask the turn over time. Do they wash per person or in bulk. Laundry is a big problem in a NH.
Speaking with families with LO at this community and other communities found that they were encountering the same situation. My solution was to not purchase expensive clothing and accept that LO in AL have community wear. 😊
In caring for my dad and his health issues I need to pick my battles and clothing is at the bottom of the concern list for me.
I too am very happy with his situation in general, so I had to realize that I am powerless. I fear you are too.
here is much that has to be researched and regulated with care for the elderly in this country. Same with internet control.
Mom's AL would do each resident's laundry individually once a week. Unfortunately they would only do 2 loads, one linens, one clothing and would dry everything on high heat! So I had to buy everything a few sizes too large.
Dad was in a different facility where all laundry was dumped together and sorted after. I learned to go to the laundry room and find his clothes, and go through his closet to remove someone else’s.
We learned not to buy nice things because the parents really didn’t care.
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