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My dad had a stroke a month ago. I live out of state so my aunt and a family friend were given power of attorney (medical&financial) since they live w him I figured it would be ok. The deal between all of us was that we would all communicate on everything regarding my dad's care. I wasn't worried about giving the family friend fin poa because we all thought my dad didn't have any $$. But now she's discovered he had some funds. I tried asking about his Financials and she's avoiding the question. Now the 2 of them have started selling my dad's things while he's in the hisp which I highly disagree w. They have now cut me off completely from knowing anything about what they are doing w my dad. We got into a huge fight. I don't know what to do. Do I have any rights?

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No, you don't have rights.
First of all, a verbal agreement is worth nothing.
Secondly, a POA cannot/should not/must not discuss their principle's finances with someone else.

If you feel there is financial abuse going on here call APS. They will visit and will assess the work the POA is doing for the person who appointed him/her. If they find wrongdoing or suspect it they can ask a court to oversee and examine records.

Sale of the assets should be going to the accounts of the elder. This is easily checked by APS. Speak to them at your earliest convenience.
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It is a fact that a PoA is under no obligation to share the principal's private financial info with anyone, even immediate family. You may have "spooked" the PoA by asking about your Dad's money... maybe they misinterpreted your interest in it? Did you ever ask them why they are selling your Dad's things: perhaps they are downsizing him to prepare him for a move into a facility, and/or he needs the money to pay for care. I'm sorry they've cut you off completely, but as long as your Dad is fine with you visiting him I would go see him in person and get a sense of what's going on.

You currently don't have any "rights" regarding knowing about and managing your Dad's affairs. You'd need to pursue legal guardianship through the courts -- if he is incapacitated. I'm sorry for these circumstances, I hope you can get answers to your questions.
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Ionav143 Sep 3, 2024
thank you for your response. she obtained the poa by telling everyone she was his fiance while he was incapacited in the hospital. i spoke to the medical guy and he's telling me all his care will be covered by medical. she wants to continue collecting full rent from my dad is why she is selling his things. this is all i can think of since he doesnt need the $$ for his care. i think i will speak to an attorney to see if i have any chance of getting her out.
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Go visit, it may not change anything but nothing replaces a first hand experience to get a better idea of the situation. Put aside your upset feelings and show only concern for dad while you check things out. I hope you’ll be able to communicate better and work as a team again
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Sadly since you aren't either of your dads POA's, you don't have much of a say unless you want to go to court and file for guardianship. And his POA's are not required to share anything with you either. They must however keep meticulous records of what they're doing with his money and belongings.
So in the meantime, I would make a trip sooner than later to go visit your dad and get a first hand view as to what exactly is going on with your dads money and things.
We can only hope that what is being done is in the best interest of your dad.
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