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I have realized that I am in a battle with my mother. If I stop looking after her, she wins. If I hold on until she dies, I win. I am not sure what we are fighting for, except to prove the other wrong. Anyone else in this mind set?
Just wanted to let people know that in general I am feeling better. My mother somehow resurrected her sense of humor, and that helped a lot. Thank for all the answers.
I think everyone here feels like this at one time or another. If you read many of these posts there is a Battle Royal going on with parents, children, in-laws etc. As to what we win? I guess in my case it will be knowing I did my very best to keep my mom at home happy and healthy for as long as I can. Someday soon she may have to go somewhere for her dementia but I will have known I tried my best. And that my friend is all anyone can ever ask!
I think sometimes it's a battle of wills: their side to behave like a child, our side to provide the best care we can while still maintaining some semblance of a life.
Think about it, how would an adult who is functioning in a psychologically healthy manner want to put undue burden on their child? Unless a parent is suffering from Alzheimers or similar, they are attempting to make their child caretaker their parent while they play the part of the spoiled child. Ironically I think many elders would be happier with outside interests, activities and care givers . It's scary to think how growing old can strip so many elders of their capacity for simple pleasures in life.
I never went into caring for my mom or my husband thinking it would be a war. This is because I give in too easily and think I am always at fault. Even if the actual “war”is over when your LO passes away, you still fight the battles in your mind. I usually win those :) People tell me I have such a wonderful attitude. If they only knew...
Thank you for the update. Glad to hear things are going better.
Me, too, Windyridge. I always thought that way too. Who would care for my elderly parents if something happened to me? Luckily it hasn't come to that. Hang in there my friend.
I have a pretty good chance of outliving my mother (short of being hit by a bus). However, I am often consumed by worry about my daughters. Not one thing, it's another.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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WILL I OUT LIVE THESE PEOPLE!
I’m in pretty good shape, all things considered, but I actually have thoughts about who would take care of my folks if I Die!?
Ice pack on lower back, aleave pill, adult beverage, sweet wife who fed me tonight in my recliner. Not a bad life.
My 87 yr old Dad with dementia went to his eye doc today and then raked leaves for 2 hrs. I can’t even stand up straight. God help us all.....
If it's not one thing, it's your mother.
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It was a joke. Meant only for those who can enjoy it. Please don't shoot the messenger.
to provide the best care we can while still maintaining some semblance of a life.
Think about it, how would an adult who is functioning in a psychologically healthy
manner want to put undue burden on their child? Unless a parent is suffering
from Alzheimers or similar, they are attempting to make their child caretaker their
parent while they play the part of the spoiled child. Ironically I think many elders
would be happier with outside interests, activities and care givers . It's scary to think
how growing old can strip so many elders of their capacity for simple pleasures in
life.
People tell me I have such a wonderful attitude. If they only knew...
Thank you for the update. Glad to hear things are going better.
Me, too, Windyridge. I always thought that way too. Who would care for my elderly parents if something happened to me? Luckily it hasn't come to that. Hang in there my friend.
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