I am a hardworking single mother of 3 boys. My mother is newly on home-hospice and I am an emotional wreck. She has been at deaths door on numerous occasions this past year. The doctors a few weeks back told us she would not make it through the night, but she did and is very much alive right now. She suffers from late stage COPD, Congestive Heart Failure, Pulmonary issues, Lupus and much more. She has been on oxygen the past 2 years and has had 3 heart attacks in the last 8 months. It has been a ride for sure. I love her, I am the only child who lives nearby and I am trying my best to take care of her & my 3 boys. Somedays I feel broken and exhausted, like I just need a break and other days I am riddled with guilt like I could do more. I also work full-time as not working is not an option, even with full time I struggle financially. I guess I just feel lost in this whole thing. I want to take care of my mom, I want her last days to be filled with love and family. I don't want to get "the call" at work. I don't want her to suffer but I know its not up to me. Its all up to God.
What are your hospice stories? Did you lose your parent(s) quickly after going on hospice?
I would NEVER have been able to work, care for my family, my home and myself AND provided 24/7 to my very fragile mother. She needed MEDICAL care (oxygen, freqent checks of BP, breathing and skin checks, as well as management of her mental state). She was well cared for in the NH and had social interaction with aides, volunteers and chaplaincy.
Is your mother's money (SS, pension) being used to hire outside help?