I’m positive nothing inappropriate has occurred, she thinks this aide sleeps with her and she believes that he feels the same way. I have not brought this up to anyone at the facility but I do know that the aide now brings in a female staffer when he has to attend to her so I’m guessing she made him uncomfortable. In any event, I just change the subject but this “fantasy” really drives her and in a bizarre way keeps her in a positive state of mind. She takes better care with her appearance and seems kind of “up” like one is in teenage love. This is so bizarre. Any thoughts?
I just figure she's not at herself and go about the helping tend to my wife.
well that was it, I now pick her movies very carefully. Back to the bed thing. She tells me there is someone in her bed all the time. She can see them. But when I put her in for the night she says OK they have gone. I have gotten to the point that nothing she says is going to make any sense.
Sometimes our LO’s say all kinds of crazy things that really don’t matter, but this scenario might be worth exploring for peace of mind all around. Good luck.
But hey, I'm glad to hear the aide brings a female staffer in with him when tending to your mother, that's a good thing. And imo it's also a good thing that she believes this fantasy because it keeps her happy & cheerful & WANTING to keep up her appearance, and that's wonderful.
Good luck!