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Omg yes! Sounded like my mother ! I called her long term care insurance and stated that I was “concerned for her Saftey “ she lives alone and when I went to visit her the gas was on and a pot was on the stove with nothing in it burning . That with her two dementia meds she was on and a virtual interview where they asked several questions she could not answer she was granted 24/7 aid. For her safety!! Can’t stress it any clearer! Now that aid is there I don’t get as many phone calls but she still calls a lot. I know one day she will forget how to use the phone so the calls don’t bother me as much. PS if the calls bother you then you don’t want her living with you.. there is no escape I tried that too.
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Sounds like she is able and she is "doing something". Do not waste time explaining dementia. She is where she likes to be at the present. You are the one that needs some couseling. This job is taking its tole. You may speed up the decision to get into a facility. When I say you need help....do you have a mindset of a caregiver or is it what has to be done...like a responsability. It might be "just a job". A "caregiver mindset" ....get some couseling and see if it is down there inside of you. Sounds like she is "compliant". If you have plans you and your husband have thought about....get serious and be honest with what is going on is not good for your mental health. Do not try to get your husband to help you...he has his own routine and it will not change. Guys are like that. You are not ready to retire. If you both desire her to live with you.....or....it wont be long till she needs to be placed. Get her house in your name as you have 5 years before it does not be a asset to qualify for a nursing or ....home. Check with medicade about her selling her house and using the money to get a larger place so you can be the caregiver. Your house is falling apart? That is your husbands job. You will continue to fall apart. I think your job is full time and take most all your energy. If you are getting what you need out of the job you will be happy to continue it. I do not think she will be happy to have someone come and do what you do. That person will never take your place and she may not adjust. Talk and plan with your husband.
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