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She has no reasoning skills left because she has dementia.
IF you want to remain with her in the house there are hinges that you can get that will allow the door to open fully. OR Have a carpenter come in and enlarge the opening to the bathroom. It would require a bit of work but it should be possible.
Is this the only barrier?
Enlarge other doorways there will come a time, maybe sooner rather than later when she will be in a wheelchair.
If she continues to use furniture as support it will be sooner. One option might be to remove as much furniture as possible. Use the closet, put a dresser in the closet if that is possible. It will eliminate some of her spots for support so that she has to use the walker more.
As I said you can not reason with her but remind her that if she falls she will go to the hospital, she will go to rehab and she may not be able to return home after that.
Begin to look at Memory Care facilities so that you know what is available and you will be able to take the steps needed when the time comes.
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Mammajae Feb 2021
I like the comment about reasoning with her. I promised my MIL to not be sent to a hospital. She has dementia and forgets her walker often. Reasoning may not help in my instance but I am willing to try.
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Place her in a Memory Care Assisted Living community where she can be cared for and safe 24/7. Don't ever walk away and leave a demented elder alone to fend for herself! She has NO reasoning skills and no ability to understand danger, or consequences to her behavior. That's what dementia is all about. Not only should you not put the door back on the bathroom, you shouldn't leave her alone in the shower, no matter how loudly she objects.

You either need to make her home safe to live in, or place her in a safe environment. It's okay either way. This shouldnt be about what the "squad" thinks of you....but about doing the right thing for your mother, aggravation aside. My own mother lives in Memory Care Assisted Living and they do a great job of caring for her. Much better than I'd do, truthfully. Be honest with yourself and make your decision accordingly.
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Mammajae Feb 2021
Excellent!!!
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I do not think she should walk alone, she needs assistance or she could fall and fracture a hip. It seems she needs 24 hour care to be safe. Poor eyesight, walker getting in the way, falling on Sunday I am concerned for her safety. I would not put the door back on and be firm, the door is a hazard. We sometimes have to make decisions for our loved in their best interest to keep them safe. It might be time to place her in a nice facility for her safety. Things are going to get harder as time goes on and you need a plan in place. Good luck.
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