This might simply be my own distorted perception of it, but it seems to me that manipulative, controlling, mean spirited mothers far outnumber those types of fathers.
I think this applies whether or not true narcissism is involved. A person can have a mean streak, and be manipulative and controlling - yet not an actual narcissist.
If this is true, what do you think are the possible reasons for it?
Many men entitle the woman to get her to calm down so they can have some peace, that also causes women who cannot do anything for themselves. Then they become helpless and needy, and then get upset when their needs are no longer met.
Just my 2 cents of course!
I speak now in generalities. We do have those women who disengage and go about their business peacefully and we do have those men who whine on and on. But generally I think the templates are different.