I have taken care of my husband from Bedridden for 7 months to wheelchair for over a year. Now past two years walker. Now my health is getting worse totally. I have had enough. He refuses to go to his doctor he sits in recliner for 8 hours from 9 to 9 at times 8 to 7:30 pm. He only gets up to go to bathroom and to bed. Lived in apt for 2 years almost never once walked to kitchen at all. He has only been outside about 7 times in the past 2 yrs. No desire. Had enough waiting on him and letting my health go. Want to live life now. Not being selfish I did all what I could for him the past 5 years on my own. Sorry to say we lived in GA for 5 years he said he did not want to die in GA so I got him up here in DE. He had 2 heart surgeries, two strokes, neck surg, two hip surg. He ran out on me long before this. I was ready to leave him in 1997, but stood by him to help him. Stopped loving him long ago, but not a cold hearted person No one else would help him...
Take care of you first. See if there is a adult day care and a transport to take him.
My thoughts are with you !
You could do the same thing. Get him breakfast. Set him up for the day, lunch made ahead in the frig. Then do your thing. Get a p/t job. Shop, Lunch with friends. He has just taken advantage of a situation. Its time for you to say no more.