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I really thought we would have about another week. I did kiss her and told her I loved her each time lately. I just of course wished I had another week. At least her suffering is over.
I’m so sorry for your loss. Someone once said to me Deep grief comes from deep love, and I promise that only the love lasts forever. The sentiment helped me when I lost my Dad in 2021.
Of course you wanted 1 more week, and that 1 more would be 1 more. What if you had the 1 more week and didn't know it? What if you got your wish and had 1 more, what would you have done differently? I am guessing you would have done the exact same thing. You were blessed with the time you had. And as I have mentioned to others be thankful that you had a mom that you wanted to have 1 more week with. Many people on this site do not have that. I am sorry for your loss.
Oh RD, I feel a mixture of relief and sorrow to read this post. Your mother's suffering has finally come to an end and you can both rest in peace with that knowledge after such a long arduous journey. You've gone above and beyond as her devoted DD bringing her the fruity Starbucks drinks she loved lately, and now I'm crying yet again. Ugh. I'm sorry for your loss, my friend. God bless you and ease your grief in the coming days.
RD, I am so sorry for your loss. It is such s bittersweet feeling when they are suffering and pass. I don't think we can ever truly prepare for our mom dying, I think you would have felt like more time any time she went.
May The Lord Jesus give you grieving mercies, strength and peace for this new season in your life.
Riverdale, my deepest condolences on the loss of your beloved mom. I know what you mean about being conflicted about wanting more time and wanting your parent to be at peace. It’s so hard.
Thank you all for such very kind words and thoughts. It is a relief to know my mother's suffering is over as it had become very great primarily due to worsening bedsores she had been living with for a year and a half. She fought a long and hard fight. I believe her earlier Christian Science beliefs kept her from acknowledging impending death. I have never agreed with that religion but in her mind it must have given her some sense of peace to keep her from all her afflictions. You have all been a great support system to me for some time and I am grateful to all of you for that and I truly appreciate the kind words and thoughts.
"let the beauty of what you love be what you do" -Rumi (now what do you do with what you know about time) RCIA taught me "there is no time or space with your soul" and the dying process of transition has taught that to be true . spirit level . soul level . othrr dimensions of being . study chakra energy and reiki healing . what looks like the end is also a beginning, maybe that is what your mom showed you in thatmoment. be strong and power through. she is proud of your journey already.
Save a memory box, a video collage of photos, flowers, a photo shelf in your home an area to celebrate her life. pay tribute to her memory. I’ve also had memorial celebrations or vigils to celebrate a life along with the standard memorial funerals. During COVID we lost my mother but held a vigil years later. She’s adorable and always in my heart ❤️. I am sad that you lost your mother and hopefully every day will bring peace.,
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
What if you had the 1 more week and didn't know it?
What if you got your wish and had 1 more, what would you have done differently? I am guessing you would have done the exact same thing.
You were blessed with the time you had.
And as I have mentioned to others be thankful that you had a mom that you wanted to have 1 more week with. Many people on this site do not have that.
I am sorry for your loss.
I lost my mom last Fall. I'm still in the stages of grief and sometimes it hits me hard that she's gone.
But, I wouldn't wish her back for one minute. I know where she is and that her tired, worn body is at rest.
May The Lord Jesus give you grieving mercies, strength and peace for this new season in your life.
Big HUG!!
I’m so sorry for your loss. You have been through so much with your mom. You will miss her.
Peaceful thoughts to you today & all the days + nights. Adjustment & grief take time. Be gentle to yourself.
She suffered for so long, after getting dropped. What a hard time for you both.
Sending hugs, and prayers for your comfort and peace.
Sending peace to you both on your new journeys.
Keep the wonderful memories in your heart.
pay tribute to her memory. I’ve also had memorial celebrations or vigils to celebrate a life along with the standard memorial funerals.
During COVID we lost my mother but held a vigil years later. She’s adorable and always in my heart ❤️.
I am sad that you lost your mother and hopefully every day will bring peace.,